Essay About Loving Relationship And Natural Form Of Human Courtship

Seduction
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Seduction
An applied psychological approach to the old problem of seduction.
Or, in lay terms (sic) “how to chat up that bit you fancy”.
In this essay I shall attempt to convey my observations, and
research into the art of seduction. Seduction is a game which is
played everyday in every country by millions of people. Its simply
a natural form of human courtship. Nothing to be ashamed about,
unless like me youre married, in which case it can be a dangerous
game. Seduction is not the same as flirting. Flirting is more
malicious, Eric Berne refers to it as the “game of rapo”. Flirting
is simply capturing attentions, and often involves teasing.
Seduction, however, is the act of trying to convince some one –
usually a stranger – to mate with you. You dont have to take it
this far, you can use the principles to establish a long lasting
loving relationship, but all journeys must start with a first step.
In human relations, this first step often involves physical
attraction which triggers our biological system into lust mode.
Even if you wish to remain a virgin until
your wedding night, to
get to a wedding night you must establish a raport with a suitable
partner. In this essay I should like to describe some of the more
successful ways in which raport can be established, and hopefully
without being too dry and boring.
Making the move. To me this is the hardest part. The actually
walking up to a complete stranger and making an introduction.
Sure, its easier if you are introduced, by accident perhaps?
Accidents are wonderful for breaking the ice. I dont mean that
you should run your victim over in your car, no, rather that you
might “bump in to them”, apologise, smile and voila! Or perhaps you
and your victim smoke? In this case you may disvover that you have
“lost” your cigarette lighter, or that its run out of fuel. How
unfortunate, now you have an excuse to approach the victim in order
to request ignition of your cigarette. A gentleman may of course
offer a light to a woman, even an old slapper is not adverse to a
little feminine flattery some times! If all else fails, try “Hi!
How ya doing?” It works. Why? Because its non-threatening,
friendly, open, honest and not controversial. It should be said
while maintaining eye contact and with a genuine smile.
Having made contact, its time to move in. Your opening lines are
vital. It is in these first few seconds, no more than fifteen, that
you must establish the link between you and your victim. An opening
line of, “Cor! I dont half fancy you!” will rarely succeed in
anything more than embarrassement for the victim resulting in
defence, and a lonely night for you. Rather, perhaps admire
something about them. Now beware, they know you are trying to
seduce them (or “chat them up” as is the common phrase), so be wary
of obviously cheap and shallow praise. Rather, pick something which
they are obviously very proud of. If the victim has an intricate
hair-do, the chances are they are proud of it and keen for it to be
admired