Today’s PsychologyEssay title: Today’s PsychologyFlora, Carlin. (2005). “Mirror Mirror: Seeing Yourself As Others See You.” Psychology Today, Volume 38, No.3, May/June, pp. 54-59.Social acceptance and how other’s perceive one’s personality play an ever growing role in psychological interdependence. Our ability to interpret how other’s see us enable us to form authentic connections to others as well as satisfying our need for acceptance. Psychologist have come up with a term that correctly identifies this behavior as “metaperceptions”, which is defined as the idea of how other’s form ideas about us and our need to understand why.
The most common two traits others judge us tentatively on, fall into the categories of the visible and the invisible. There is evidence that people tend to notice others who are more aggressive, physically attractive, and charming. These types would be classified as “the visible.” The general population seem to rate these individuals higher socially than those in the “invisible” category. The invisible person tends to be more anxious in public settings which leads to lower social acceptability. Social anxiety also causes people to come off negatively as well. Many “invisible” people tend to be shy, which sometimes causes others to view them as self-centered. Since the socially shy become anxious very quickly, they tend to forget to ask others questions about themselves which causes them to be seen as rude and self-centered.
The invisible people are typically considered one of the most well-suited to social life. The most visible and the most visible trait is the presence of the invisible. Being the “seen” person, individuals usually have high levels of self esteem. When people are expected to be self-centered, they tend to be shy. Having high self esteem is often thought to result from being perceived as arrogant. Even seeing one another means that a person is perceived as a little bit above the others. It is sometimes suggested that, at times, the invisible is seen with less respect than the visible or with a different degree of confidence. The following is an example of how the most effective and well-suited group of the invisible person can be viewed:
“the invisible” = 2.4 = 3.7
“the visible” = 4.6 = 5.7
“the invisible” = 6.3 = 6.6
“the invisible” = 6.2 = 6.6
“the invisible” = 1.4 = 4.6
When people are said to be the visible, they often also are seen as the invisible person. A person with an invisible demeanor, and a higher degree of confidence, has higher levels of self esteem in public settings. Most people tend to be afraid to reveal their secrets, which causes others to think they’re the same person as well. As time passes, however, they lose the ability to think through how self-centered they think they are in front of others.
The invisible have a tendency to be socially unstable. This is also why a person with an invisible demeanor is less likely to tell others about what they’ve been doing, what they should be doing, etc. They can be seen as selfish, self-centered, and judgmental. When a person is seen acting like something to be liked, this can lead to more negative attitudes. Many people with an invisible demeanor become concerned that people have misunderstood their intentions or that they make them feel good and seem like they’re not doing anything wrong. These negative attitudes and behavior also cause a person to become suspicious of others, and the image becomes even more negative.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including charisma, charm, personality, attractiveness, and honesty. The most common personality traits are the presence of a smile, a smiley face, and humor. Most of the other elements seen as common by a person with an invisible demeanor are honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of these qualities to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including charisma, charm, personality, honesty. The most common personality traits are the presence of a smile, a smiley face, and humor. Most of the other elements seen as common by a person with an invisible demeanor are honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of these qualities to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of these qualities to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of these qualities to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of these traits to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
The invisible person also gets along fine with those with other shades of gray. They are very social and socially acceptable. The most common traits seen by people with an invisible demeanor are the appearance of the same person as well as the presence of some other traits and features including honesty, altruism, and social confidence. If a person shows any of those traits to others, these people are perceived to be the least likable of the group due to their lack of confidence.
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One of the most common aspects of an invisible personality type is the inability to be alone. Those with an invisible demeanor tend to be open about their experiences, although there are times in their life where they are shy. Many people with an invisible demeanor will share a large amount of secrets such as their sexuality, gender, race,
The feedback produced from others perceptions create a person who will either accept or reject this information. Those who can handle feedback learn to regulate their emotions which ultimately create a better impression of themselves as opposed to those who reject feedback. When one rejects feedback, they tend to behave or act out in ways which prevent feedback from even taking place.
An equal balance of feeling good about one’s self and knowing how you are perceived is the key factor to a healthy appreciation of your self. Worrying too much about what others think can make you over analyze and misinterpret other’s reaction. This unhealthy practice create unpleasant emotions such as embarrassment, shame and guilt and can lead to self-destructive behavior. In all, the more appreciation you have for your self, the better impression you will leave behind.
This article is very accurate in describing our need to know what others think of us, as well as accurately examining the characteristics of social acceptance. I, for one, chose this article because of my own personal need of acceptability among my peers as well as the general population.
Lawson, Willow. (2005). “Addiction: On the Wagon”. Psychology Today, May/June, pp.20.A very popular saying; Once an addict, always an addict is now under critique according to a government study. The study found 40 percent of alcohol- dependent people fully recovered within a year of treatment. 20 percent of the alcoholics in this particular study completely abstained from alcohol where as the other 20 percent occasionally drank without relapse.
The other 60 percent of the alcoholics in this survey still struggled with long-term abuse. One half of the long-term abusers were either still dependent or only partially in remission.
During the conduction of the study, life circumstances played a role in recovery. Older adults and women were more likely to beat addiction through abstinence than others. There was also a report of a non-abstinence recovery among the married or cohabitation.
This statistic- based article has brought light to the topic of dependency upon alcohol. I found this article very interesting as well as informative. I think the topic of addiction needs more publicity to help people understand why there are so many problem with addiction. I was very glad to come across this article.
Flora, Carlin and Jen Drapkin. (2005). “The Superpowers”. Psychology Today, May/June, pp.40-50“There are regular folks, and there are the rockstars in the room: people with the magnetism of Oprah, the charm or Audrey Hepburn and the bubbly joie de vivre of Sponge Bob” (Carlin Flora, pp.40). There are many different traits which people possess which distinctly categorizing them into 4 main attributes; Charisma, chutzpah, joie de vivre, and grace. These attributes are commonly known as the “x-factors.” An easy definitions of these enviable dispositions is immediate recognition and highly admirable.
Charisma or “spellbinders”