Rejection
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The subject of betrayal is a frightening one to me. My first true love was unfaithful to me and this I remember vividly. The thought that someone could do something like that to a person was unclear to me. The betrayal troubled and depressed me for some time. The best reason that I was able to come up with at the time was physical pleasure. I want to commit myself and have a family, but I worry that the next person I meet, will be unfaithful. These worries prompted me to investigate the reasons that men decide to be unfaithful.
Although most research points to the idea that while women enter affairs for emotional reasons, men are unfaithful for purely sexual reasons. I have concluded that a large part of a mans desire to be unfaithful results from emotional causes as well.
Most theorists suggest that the reason men tend to cheat more lies in a fundamental difference between the sexes. This difference can be manifested in a number of ways, including in attitude towards the whole sexual experience. Whereas most women tend to view sex as an aspect of love and emotional intimacy men tend to see it in the same way they see going out with the boys and having a few beers.
However, while it is true that men cheat for more physical reasons, it is possible that somewhere within the physical pleasure exists an emotional reason for infidelity. Many people assume that the reason for cheating is based on a general unhappiness in marriage.
Although it is impossible to describe every reason that a man might decide to cheat on a woman, there are many general categories into which most men fit.
Through this research, and also through the insight that Ive gained in counseling, I have come to the conclusion that the most effective way to avoid marital problems, including infidelity, is through some sort of communication. Personally, I feel that marriage