Sallie Tisdale – Talk Dirty to MeEssay Preview: Sallie Tisdale – Talk Dirty to MeReport this essayWhat is it about this three letter wordSEX? What is there about sex that is so beyond the safety net of words? When hearing the word sex even the most liberated and knowledgeable people are found to be embarrassed or a little held back in discussion. However pornography, fantasies, orgasms, and other things sexual are all discussed by author Sallie Tisdale as she invites us into the talk weve all been waiting forthe talk about sex.
What is Sex? “Sex is a game, a weapon, a toy, a joy, a trance, an enlightenment, a loss, and a hope”, states Sallie Tisdale author of Talk Dirty to Me, one of the most detailed books I have ever read regarding sex. Looking at the cover of this book, you may think this is one of those passionate romance novels that many women get caught reading cuddling up to a box of tissues next to a fire. A photo of a womans hand gently grasping a tush-shaped peach is the center focus of this cover, and its subtitle being “An Intimate Philosophy” gives you a thought of this book being like any other romance novel. However, your predictions will soon be shot down by reading as little as a few pages of this bind baffling book. You will no longer be caught reading cuddling up next to fire, nor will you need a box of tissues to help you get through the sopping love stories. You will now be finding yourself blushing even gasping for a breath of fresh air after hearing the way Tisdale uses her own experiences with sexuality and people, interviews, literature and even history to open up a dialog about sex.
Talk Dirty to Me is sectioned off into four different approaches: Desire, Arousal, Climax and Resolution. She takes us on a journey through romance and prostitution to mortality. Her words are sharp and detailed, giving you are clear image of the thoughts and stories presented in her book. In fact a little too detailed for my virgin ears at times. Throughout my reading, I caught myself becoming timid yet excited to turn to the next page. Whether she is discussing her enter feelings such as appreciating “the house organ of career prostitution” or using descriptive words such as “genital frustration”, Tisdales words are always honest and informative.
One thing I really enjoyed about this book was the way Tisdale did not push her own beliefs onto her readers. I never felt pressured into agreeing with her words or thoughts on certain situations presented in the text. In fact, one of her ideas about sex workers and prostitution being a “healing” method is something I surely didnt agree with. I believe that most of these so called “sex workers” feel they are forced into these job careers because they have no other choice. It is a job that pays well enough to cover bills in hard times, not something theyve dreamed to do in order to “heal” others. To me it seemed as if Tisdale was referring sex workers to doctors:
Tisdale writes, “These people are too much of a hassle to me. They feel more helpless that someone who does my work for me.”
There are many people who work in those industries who are the equivalent to prostitutes:
One would think that tisdale didn’t want them to have sex with the same women. But that’s not the case. They did it for themselves.
One of the things that seemed to hold back my interest in these stories was a willingness to read some of the different types of experiences a sexual encounter between a prostitute and her new customer could reveal:
The kind of encounter she found at the grocery store.
By the end of my research I had a hard time with many of the types of women that I found. For one thing, many of the sex workers I was reading about would tend to be women whose lives were defined by a “pornographic” relationship—either a casual or intense relationship, for instance—a relationship that was meant to be intimate but that was, in fact, very hard to break down and was only played out by a handful of different friends. I was curious about the type of people who would find themselves engaged in these types of experiences in prostitution—both as clients and as strangers, without the benefit of the typical experience and with the added benefit of knowing that, as some said, the things about which some of them were looking for were not possible.
When researching this series, I was reminded of a book I published five years ago that I was looking into.
I wrote the book for my own use, not for Tisdale’s by association only. I have not heard of her in any shape or form. It has been years since she has made such an impact on me that I am still thinking about whether or not she should have read it. My personal understanding of her writing has been an open one until recently. I think it is appropriate to provide further research in a future project on prostitution in sex industry, since it can provide some useful insights to young woman’s readers.
Subject: Re: Tisdale’s Notes & Comments: Date: Mon, 7 Nov 2013 15:00:06 -0400