Dibs – Book ReviewEssay title: Dibs – Book Review“Sometimes he sat mute and unmoving all morning or crawled about the schoolroom floor oblivious to the other children or to his teacher.” The book Dibs is a testimony of a child who seemed to be mentally retarded because he has created his own world inside of him. In her book, Virginia Axline proves that the therapy by the play is a way of curing people such as Dibs. During her book, she gives lecture to the reader of a recording taken from the sessions with the little child. During this expose, we will develop Dib’s relation with adults in particular his teachers, parents and grand mother. Then we will analyze another relation: the one with his therapist. In the second part the phenomena of rejection will be analyzed in both sides: in the mother and the father side but also with Dibs itself. Later, we will try to understand which role play therapy had occurred on Dibs change.
Praise:
“Dibs is a terrific book. I’ll recommend it very highly indeed. He never had to use any of the psychotherapy we used to give him, but Dibs, although a genius, is not without its flaws. It is a superb illustration of the wonderful power of therapy in a child who is also a smart child, who has no problems with all kinds of issues and does not have to deal with it.” —David S. Williams, MD, MPH
“Dibs is one of the best therapy books I’ve read since the beginning of play. I can’t wait to review this book. I must say it’s great. It shows me how to recognize some problems in a child’s play while he’s still learning, so that he is always free from the anxiety that he might have had, that he will eventually feel in his relationships with his teachers, in a way that has all the qualities one can hope for from this great book!” —Alfred A. Miller, MD
“A must read for everyone with children’s problems and Dibs must be a favorite among play lovers. His techniques in many cases are unique. For parents and parents of children with autism spectrum disorders it is essential that all parents and caregivers of children with autism spectrum disorders read Dibs. Even if a child does not have a lot of money or an opportunity to find an employment, this excellent book is very motivating and informative. While there is an early passage where we learn that the “gambling” to avoid a child with autism spectrum disorder was a “hope-to-hate” strategy which caused some of the same negative effects as the children used it. But in this case there is more than just the hope-to-hate of not going against their goals.” —David S. Williams, MD, MPH
“Dibs is absolutely brilliant. It has all those problems that parents and parents, friends, family members of children with autism spectrum disorders have found out about over the past couple of decades: anxiety for school problems while they were still young, anxiety about not being able to find work, and the list goes on and on.” —Alfred A. Miller, MD, MPH, PhD
“Dibs is an excellent book and deserves the top recommendation it gets. When you get to the second part, all you see is a lot of emotional turmoil. It’s like trying to learn a language when you’re in kindergarten. It’s fun.  A great reading. Highly recommended. The second half is well written and well written especially with Dibs. Amazing. I recommend it to everyone except for the children my son goes to preschool with. But my son is so good and I still recommend it to him. Just read it!” —David S. Williams, MD, MPH
“This is a great book. In part it describes how some people want their children to be happy and healthy and others don’t. This book demonstrates the difference between caring about their children, not helping them, and being a little bit in and out of control while the child goes to school.” —Alfred A. Miller, MD
“I was pleasantly surprised by Dibs as a reviewer. He is so knowledgeable, and not based on some sort of scientific or technical data. I like the “real work” and really dig his book. He really got into the human
When the books starts, Dibs is in the school since two years. At the beginning he refused to talk. Sometimes he could stay dumb and still during an entire morning. Other times, he could have violent bout of anger when it was time to go back home, which provoked towards teachers and director of the school a big anxiety. Was he mentally retarded? Was he suffering of a mental illness since his birth? Did his brain have received a shock? No one knew, even his parents who always refused to talk about their son’s attitude. But as the author, Virginia Axline, said “there was something about Dibs behavior that defied the teachers to categorize him, glibly and routinely, and send him on his way. His behavior was so uneven. At one time, he seemed to be extremely retarded mentally. Another time he would quickly and quietly do something that indicated he might even have superior intelligence” (Axline, Virginia Dibs in search of Self, 15). The staff meeting of class finally decide to help Dibs and to do something for him. It is at this point that the Doctor Virginia Axline, “specialized in working with children and parents” is called.
Dibs relationship with his teachers was non existent. His reaction was the one of an assisted person. When it was going-home time, the child used to stay in the class without a gesture waiting for the teachers to put his coat on while saying “No go home! No go home! No go home!” (Dibs in search of Self, 14). For the child his house was the synonym of a place where he was rejected where he felt he did not have his place.
Concerning the relationship that the child entertain with his parents the best example we have is a passage very significant of this incomprehension between the child and his father. This section occurred while Dibs is in the process of recovery. At the end of a play therapy session, his father went to pick him up. It is the first time that the Doctor Axline is presented to his father. Her is a the passage of this brief interview between the three characters:
– “Papa” glanced at me. “How do you do”, he said, stiffly. He seemed very ill at ease.– “ How do you do,” I replied– “I say, Papa,” Dibs said. “Do you know today is not Independence Day?”– “Come Dibs I am in a hurry,” “Papa” said– “Independence Day comes on Thursday,”– “Papa” was shoving Dibs out the door. “Can’t you stop that senseless jabber?” he said, between clenched teeth.This short passage is the typical example of the humiliated child in front of someone else. Most of the time, when you hear the word “bad treatment”, you associate it with violence and physical suffering but less with bad treatment morally speaking. Most of the time a child who had received bad treatment moral is more traumatized than the one who had received violence suffering. In an article written by a professor at the Universita degli stradi of Bologna in the Department of Psychology, it is said that “bad physical treatment and humiliation are closely associated as Freud has previously observed” (ENFANCE, Tome 47, n? 1 p. 21- 26). For the professor Marco W. Battachi, what is clear is that “humiliation causes traumatized