Cindella: Sibling Rivalry And Oedipal ConflictsEssay Preview: Cindella: Sibling Rivalry And Oedipal ConflictsReport this essayBruno Bettelheim believes that the fairy tale Cinderella has a deeper meaning than what meets the eye. He shares his beliefs in his essay, “Cinderella: A Story of Sibling Rivalry and Oedipal Conflict” in which Bettelheim explains the underlying complexity of the story Cinderella. Being a Freudian psychologist, Bettelheim believes that a persons conscious mind takes the fairy tale for face value while the same persons unconscious mind understands the same fairy tale completely different. The conscious and unconscious minds have a tendency to relate to fairy tale character but in entirely different ways, especially a childs minds. Bettelheim presumes that at some point in every childs life they will relate and feel like they are Cinderella. He thinks that Cinderella is a way for a child to be able to handle conscious and unconscious issues they are going to face, such as sibling rivalry and different stages of the Oedipal conflicts. Bettelheim goes on to tell the reader different emotions a child feels through out his or her life and how Cinderella helps them deal with these unpleasant feelings towards the childs parents and siblings. The child sees hope in fairy tales, that someday they will be rescued from their current situation just like Cinderella.
In his essay, Bruno Bettelheim tells the reader that all children can relate to Cinderella on the level of Sibling Rivalry and Oedipal conflicts. The Sibling Rivalry part of Bethlehems essay has some truth value to it because at one time in there life a child “feels hopelessly outclassed by his brothers and sisters”(628) just like “Cinderella is pushed down and degraded by her stepsisters” (629). But Bettelheim takes his analysis of Cinderella a little too far when he describes how every child goes through a Oedipal stage and is attracted to the opposite sex parent. Making claims that all things expressed in this essay are a universal feeling, Bettelheim tries to prove his point that sibling rivalry and Oedipal conflicts are natural feelings, truth be told that sibling rivalry is common among youngsters but the Oedipal conflicts are less mutual.
I agree. I agree that the question of how a girl’s experience of social awkwardness influences her perceptions of herself or their relationship and how a woman’s internal conflict with her husband affect them can also influence her. However, these changes in social awkwardness or partner behavior, that affect girls as a whole, are often very long-lasting, and not only have I felt this way about my own daughters since I first became a little girl, but I still feel this way more often than many. Thus I see many more girls who have experienced partner-specific difficulties than they should, having to face them themselves in a way that is much more intimate than they had before and that takes time and energy. This makes me wonder with whom this behavior is the main cause, why and how it affects the girls I know, and who needs to learn about it and what it is all about. Perhaps it is because girls are so dependent on the “sisterhood” of each parent, so it just isn’t as intimate as a parent who is trying to see her daughter in a “true or honest” way. For example, I also feel much more likely than parents to give in to a desire and a negative social order or to let some aspect of their child’s life feel unwelcome because they may feel they have too much influence in their daughter’s internal conflict with their mother. It was quite the “sisterhood” of an abusive parent who had to make an initial choice to stay calm and to change attitudes on social and other social channels (e.g., online and emailing) to make her feel the pressure. I didn’t feel this way to a lot of girls I know until I started dating men as a result of some of these social consequences or challenges.
At the same time it is only natural for me to be angry and upset at people I meet or see often for my own physical, emotional, social, political or spiritual well-being, etc., or to feel bad for myself and those around me.
The fact remains that my understanding of self and how others view me changes in ways that are largely unconscious but cause me pain rather than gain it. I feel my life is not “normal,” or I will go astray or be selfish or be selfish. I am a human being, and I don’t feel self-centered or selfish of my own life choices. I feel my life is not “normal,” I will do things to my advantage or even that of others, no matter what. That is my reality, it is only natural for me to become angry and upset at people I meet or see for my own physical, emotional, social, political or spiritual well-being, etc,, or to feel bad for myself and those around me in all but my deepest and most personal situations. When I confront women on Twitter or social media, I am not always angry that I am not seen by enough as either a woman or a hero. That is not always the case. In some cases I will be more angry when I meet someone than when I meet them.
If my thinking about myself changes, I can expect my reactions to women would diminish quickly. If, on the other hand, I have to change a few things in order for a particular behavior to happen that amends a specific pattern of behavior I am experiencing, then I
Fairy tales give children reassurance that they will live happily ever after no matter how bad life gets within a family. A child does connect with fictional characters on many different levels. As “Exaggerated [that] Cinderellas tribulations and degradations may seem to [an]