Spanking
Essay title: Spanking
I chose to do my research on the discipline of child psychology because it is very interesting to me and I would really like to learn more about how parents should go about disciplining a child.
My first research was from the ““Canadian Health Network””, Health Information You Can Trust. It is an article/journal on Child Psychology. Positive discipline will help your child become a healthy, caring, responsible adult. It takes and effort, but it is well worth it. Positive discipline is about teaching and guiding your child. ““It helps if you start setting the rules at an early age,”” says the Canadian Health Network. Personally, I think that if you discipline your child to do as I say, not as I do, it would really help the child. There are a lot of parents out there that tell their kids not to drink and do drugs, but when the child comes homes, that is all the childs sees. How can you tell a child don’’t do this or that if you are doing the same thing? Parents are the childs number one role model and that’’s who the child looks up to. So if the child sees mommy and daddy doing it, then it must be okay. That is how children think. I think a lot of parents’’ wait until the child is a teenager to try and teach the child right from wrong. People say that when a child is one or two years old, that the child doesn’’t know right from wrong because they are babies. Wrong, children know and they have an instinct on certain things. ““You should be a good example to your child no matter how old they are, if you start from the beginning, you will have less problems in the end,”” says the Canadian Health Network. Another topic in these articles and journals is how you praise your child. It really upsets me when I’’m in a store and a child is acting up and to get the child to shut up, the parent buys that child a toy or something. That is just so annoying to me. My motto is, ““Don’’t start nothing you can’’t finish!”” If you are constantly buying a child things every time
he or she is acting up, then that child will constantly act up on purpose because they know that it will get them what they want. I don’’t think that people should praise their child when they mess up. Believe it or not, children know how to use their parents. Take that example for instance, the child wants a toy so he or she is going to act up just to get it because they know they can get something every time
they act up. Children are very smart and are very manipulative. Just because a child cries, doesn’’t necessarily mean that there is something wrong with that child. Sometimes children just do it for attention. The best way to deal with a child who misbehaves and throw tantrums is to just ignore them. The child wants some attention and wants to be paid attention to. Eventually the child will stop if he or she notices that you aren’’t paying attention to them.
My second research is on ““Disciplining Your Child”” by David A. Ansel, MD, FAAP. ““Disciplining is one of the most difficult and important jobs facing any parent,”” says Annsel. I think that it is important to keep in mind a goal when disciplining your child, and it is not simply to control behavior but rather to teach them over the long run. If you teach your child now, then that child will know exactly what to do and how to act in the real world. How they act in the parents’’ house and how they act in the real world is ver different. ““The successful parent-disciplinarian does not need to discipline very much because their child does in him or herself. This is because the child has internalized rules and has made them his or her own,”” says Ansel. I think that rules need to be reasonable. They should allow an adequate range of freedom. They can’’t be too restrictive. Learning how to make your own choices is as important as learning to enforce you own internal rules growing up. As the old saying is that you should give them just enough rope to hang themselves. If you are constantly on the childs back and constantly telling them what to do, then when they go into the world by themselves, they wont know what to do because they never had the chance to make their own decisions. Parents shouldn’’t control how the child dresses or does their hair. ““Parents should respect a childs own individuality and autonomy.”” Says Ansel. Which I agree with because children should be able to establish their own style. They know what clothes they like and they may not agree to the style that you like, which is usually the case. Back in the day when our parents were growing up, they wouldn’’t be caught wearing what we wear now because they didn’’t have the styles we have now so they would feel very strange wearing what we wear as we would wearing their clothes. Ansel