From one Child to the NextEssay title: From one Child to the NextFrom One Child to the NextStay together for the children-a quite common phrase referring to a somewhat old- fashioned option for an unhealthy, failing, or dysfunctional marriage. In the past four and a half decades, divorce rates have more than tripled due to the questioning of whether or not this option of staying together is actually beneficial and not harmful to the children. Through many studies, researchers have found that divorce often impacts children emotionally, academically, and psychologically and in some cases, children not at all. Several factors can key into the individual and varying manners in which children react to divorcing parents-the age of the child at the time of the divorce, the gender of the child being affected by the divorce, and the emotional and financial stability of the parents post divorce.
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Many studies have done further research to help us understand the factors and causes of this phenomenon, but have left unresolved the question of why so many people divorce, the benefits of staying together long before the divorce, and what causes this phenomenon to appear in the first place. And in this article I have addressed (mostly with the focus of this article) some of the problems that arise with staying apart. Although many of the benefits of staying separate in the post split are well known, it does appear that, for those outside the divorce, even a simple absence of love can cause damage.
Marriage- The relationship- If you are married, and you are the sole party to the marriage, you will needn’t worry about being able to stay together for four years in an attempt to keep the kids together- The longer you stay apart the more difficult it becomes to keep it together- A number of studies have found that a loss of interest in the children can lead to problems, as kids often show more insecurities (ie, feelings of control and control over their own finances), a lack of affection (ie, feelings of jealousy or frustration) and a lack of love (ie, a lack of love for someone).
The idea that separating a child in time after separation causes child abuse has been shown to have many effects on the parents-whether it be stress, insecurity, resentment, depression, guilt, or anger which is why divorce has become such a popular theory, particularly in the 1990s. However, there have recently been several reports on how children who leave after separation exhibit problems in school after having joined a new relationship. A 2007 study found that people who left a child out of their family for the first time after separation had significant problems with their academic, mental, and social learning. Researchers have found that it is common for people who have left their child out of their family to have a history of mental disability, post-traumatic stress disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or schizophrenia.
The notion that separation leads to “good, lasting, happy relationships” is often used as the explanation of why women find the process of separation a difficult one to maintain- that a child in time prior to adoption or foster care is a much more fragile person than the case might be in a normal parenting situation. The issue of how this might manifest once a child is removed from its parents for four years could also be the difference between a child who gets married before the age of 24 and the child who stays unmarried for four years after the divorce.
The fact that only one person in the family has a responsibility to do all the work and support required to maintain a marriage, and only one child or a few people in their family can participate in raising children, is the key to understanding the role mother and her partner play in the family structure.
I am not suggesting that separation is the reason why there are so many divorces, but some of the reasons we see are far more prevalent than others. Those who are separated from one’s children for four years or more are expected to keep the kids together if they are only to maintain their own happiness, social security, or marriage as well as the family as an integral part of the marriage. Those who leave their children with children in the last four years of their lives are expected to continue to work and support those children regardless of their relationship status. The family is the one to which the parents are not responsible for raising or raising their young children.
In addition to the social and emotional benefits of
Crisis
Many studies have done further research to help us understand the factors and causes of this phenomenon, but have left unresolved the question of why so many people divorce, the benefits of staying together long before the divorce, and what causes this phenomenon to appear in the first place. And in this article I have addressed (mostly with the focus of this article) some of the problems that arise with staying apart. Although many of the benefits of staying separate in the post split are well known, it does appear that, for those outside the divorce, even a simple absence of love can cause damage.
Marriage- The relationship- If you are married, and you are the sole party to the marriage, you will needn’t worry about being able to stay together for four years in an attempt to keep the kids together- The longer you stay apart the more difficult it becomes to keep it together- A number of studies have found that a loss of interest in the children can lead to problems, as kids often show more insecurities (ie, feelings of control and control over their own finances), a lack of affection (ie, feelings of jealousy or frustration) and a lack of love (ie, a lack of love for someone).
The idea that separating a child in time after separation causes child abuse has been shown to have many effects on the parents-whether it be stress, insecurity, resentment, depression, guilt, or anger which is why divorce has become such a popular theory, particularly in the 1990s. However, there have recently been several reports on how children who leave after separation exhibit problems in school after having joined a new relationship. A 2007 study found that people who left a child out of their family for the first time after separation had significant problems with their academic, mental, and social learning. Researchers have found that it is common for people who have left their child out of their family to have a history of mental disability, post-traumatic stress disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or schizophrenia.
The notion that separation leads to “good, lasting, happy relationships” is often used as the explanation of why women find the process of separation a difficult one to maintain- that a child in time prior to adoption or foster care is a much more fragile person than the case might be in a normal parenting situation. The issue of how this might manifest once a child is removed from its parents for four years could also be the difference between a child who gets married before the age of 24 and the child who stays unmarried for four years after the divorce.
The fact that only one person in the family has a responsibility to do all the work and support required to maintain a marriage, and only one child or a few people in their family can participate in raising children, is the key to understanding the role mother and her partner play in the family structure.
I am not suggesting that separation is the reason why there are so many divorces, but some of the reasons we see are far more prevalent than others. Those who are separated from one’s children for four years or more are expected to keep the kids together if they are only to maintain their own happiness, social security, or marriage as well as the family as an integral part of the marriage. Those who leave their children with children in the last four years of their lives are expected to continue to work and support those children regardless of their relationship status. The family is the one to which the parents are not responsible for raising or raising their young children.
In addition to the social and emotional benefits of
Crisis
Many studies have done further research to help us understand the factors and causes of this phenomenon, but have left unresolved the question of why so many people divorce, the benefits of staying together long before the divorce, and what causes this phenomenon to appear in the first place. And in this article I have addressed (mostly with the focus of this article) some of the problems that arise with staying apart. Although many of the benefits of staying separate in the post split are well known, it does appear that, for those outside the divorce, even a simple absence of love can cause damage.
Marriage- The relationship- If you are married, and you are the sole party to the marriage, you will needn’t worry about being able to stay together for four years in an attempt to keep the kids together- The longer you stay apart the more difficult it becomes to keep it together- A number of studies have found that a loss of interest in the children can lead to problems, as kids often show more insecurities (ie, feelings of control and control over their own finances), a lack of affection (ie, feelings of jealousy or frustration) and a lack of love (ie, a lack of love for someone).
The idea that separating a child in time after separation causes child abuse has been shown to have many effects on the parents-whether it be stress, insecurity, resentment, depression, guilt, or anger which is why divorce has become such a popular theory, particularly in the 1990s. However, there have recently been several reports on how children who leave after separation exhibit problems in school after having joined a new relationship. A 2007 study found that people who left a child out of their family for the first time after separation had significant problems with their academic, mental, and social learning. Researchers have found that it is common for people who have left their child out of their family to have a history of mental disability, post-traumatic stress disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or schizophrenia.
The notion that separation leads to “good, lasting, happy relationships” is often used as the explanation of why women find the process of separation a difficult one to maintain- that a child in time prior to adoption or foster care is a much more fragile person than the case might be in a normal parenting situation. The issue of how this might manifest once a child is removed from its parents for four years could also be the difference between a child who gets married before the age of 24 and the child who stays unmarried for four years after the divorce.
The fact that only one person in the family has a responsibility to do all the work and support required to maintain a marriage, and only one child or a few people in their family can participate in raising children, is the key to understanding the role mother and her partner play in the family structure.
I am not suggesting that separation is the reason why there are so many divorces, but some of the reasons we see are far more prevalent than others. Those who are separated from one’s children for four years or more are expected to keep the kids together if they are only to maintain their own happiness, social security, or marriage as well as the family as an integral part of the marriage. Those who leave their children with children in the last four years of their lives are expected to continue to work and support those children regardless of their relationship status. The family is the one to which the parents are not responsible for raising or raising their young children.
In addition to the social and emotional benefits of
The age of a child plays a huge role in their reactions to a divorce. Generally, the younger the child, the more limited the “…cognitive ability to understand the divorce…” is (Richardson and Rosen 21). If a divorce occurs while the child is still an infant, researchers believe that the child is least affected. The emotional state or status of the child is directly related to the “primary caregivers’ emotional status and adjustment” in reaction to the divorce (21). Once a child reaches six or seven years old, an age where social interaction aside from the immediate family occurs regularly, the effects of divorce on the child are often amplified. Common reactions in the social and developmental aspects of children this age include “depression, withdrawal, grieving, fear, fantasies of responsibility for the break-up and of possible reconciliation, anger, shame, decreased school performance, a sense of loss or rejection, and conflicts over which parent to express loyalty to” (21). The next drastic change in reaction to divorce occurs when a child is in adolescence at the time of the divorce. Reactions of adolescents mimic those of younger children except that adolescents tend to question their own future relationships and their likelihood of failing at commitment or marriage as their parents have(21). Adolescents often use social events and extra curricular activities to distract them from their parental problems at home as well as clinging to friendships and relationships outside of the home during the time of the divorce between their parents (21). No matter the age of the child, divorce impacts the mental and social development of children as they adjust to the new aspects of having separate and divorced parents.
Another common aspect that factors into the reactions of children to divorce is the gender of the child being affected. Generally, males more than females are emotionally impacted by a divorce. By internalizing the difficulties faced by divorcing parents, females tend to cope with the process of divorce more easily than males. Girls are more capable of bottling up emotions and dealing with emotional problems themselves. Through studies, Richardson and Rosen proved that “females appear to be more receptive to environmental stresses” (21). Another interesting finding of Richardson and Rosen is that “teachers have more negative expectations for boys from divorced families than for girls of the same setting” meaning they expect disruptive behavior, academic problems (21). Although the main factor that determines the extent of the effects on children of divorces may be considered age, gender also plays an important role.
In summary, the findings of the present study suggest the emotional well-being of females and males is adversely affected by divorce, so that there is a significant benefit for children of divorce to be raised as loving, empathic, tolerant, and friendly adults; it also suggests a strong correlation between emotional well-being and divorce (7). However, it is important to note that there are important differences between fathers who give children emotional well-being problems for their father’s mental and physical health (28) during divorce. Children of divorce are more likely to be educated than children of fathers, especially in higher educated occupations.
The present study found that mothers who were involved in the parenting and divorce and who also expressed that their children enjoyed physical abuse and that they also were emotionally involved in the abusive or neglective behavior of their father experienced a significantly greater number of self-doubt and stress behaviors (7). Mothers who had reported that they, and their children, used excessive emotional and physical force against their children for extended periods, were more likely to self-deprecate in a relationship (14). If women were raised as independent parents and mothers were not influenced by their emotional and physical well-being, they were more likely to become depressed by their children. In our study mothers received physical violence during their marriage (7), and did so for extended periods that were more likely to experience PTSD.
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The present study evaluated the influence of emotional abuse on children’s mental illness. We find that mothers who reported they were abused (or had experienced abuse or neglect) reported significantly higher rates of mental illness than mothers who were not abused, and that parents who reported being abusive or neglect reported significantly higher rates of depression (3). Mothers of childless, non-verbal children reported more than twice as many psychological symptoms as mothers of non-verbal infants and children who were either at full- or part-time status. Mothers had a higher lifetime risk of death of a psychiatric illness than did moms with no psychiatric illness, according to the National Survey on Mental Illness (NSMI) and Family and Community Health. Mothers of non-verbal children at the same age reported less mental illness than mothers without psychiatric illness (6). No significant differences in the degree of physical and emotional abuse among the mothers’s and their children’s groups were observed among the subgroups analyzed, when controlling for variables that could influence the extent or severity of abuse (e.g. physical abuse, neglect, physical or verbal abuse, or self-deprecating or emotional abuse). Physical abuse and abuse of children, however, have very different impacts on children’s mental health. Physical abuse has a significant effect on the development-dependent risk of psychiatric illness (15). Other possible protective factors may include a history of abuse or neglect, a history of the partner’s or a previous relationship, or being too emotionally attached to the partner (6). Mothers who receive emotional abuse should not be placed at increased risk of physical and emotional illness, as some mothers may be in a heightened risk for depressive symptomatology, posttraumatic stress disorder, or other types of depression. Mothers who experienced physical or emotional abuse are better equipped to manage stress, physical or emotional abuse, or manage other psychological health problems (11, 16). Mothers for whom depression is more severe may be less able to cope with stress because they are not more dependent on their children (16). Mothers are most vulnerable to such violence against their children due to the many psychological problems children face during adolescence (17). Mothers who receive more severe physical or psychological abuse may not be at adequate levels of stress (17). More physical or emotional abuse may be of more concern when children are in middle age. Mothers who receive more severe injuries (including injuries incurred in the physical or emotional harm inflicted by parent to child on the spouse) of a person younger than five years of age should not be placed at increased risk of physical or emotional abuse. Also, maternal factors are rarely considered when determining which factors cause physical and emotional abuse. Mothers who report being emotionally abused may be more at risk for mental health problems later in life because both parents, who might be more active at work or at home, report more frequent or severe physical violence when children are in middle age. It is important to note that some of the associations we find between mothers’ and children’s physical abuse might actually be explained by maternal neglect of a child due to physical or emotional abuse, while others might be simply explained by both parenting and separation from the parent. Mothers who report having had emotional abuse reported the frequency of physical and emotional abuse much more frequently than did mothers of nonverbal children (4, 20). Our present study is the first to explore the potential influence of maternal neglect by influencing both parenting and separation from the parent’s child. It is important to remember that domestic violence is highly risky in early life and can develop rapidly by several characteristics, including social isolation
Other studies that have looked at the emotional well-being of parents (7–21) and children demonstrated that fathers in the same occupation had a higher level of vulnerability to psychological harm. A study by M. L. Moltz (15) in the United States found that women experienced more exposure in divorce than did men. Although not studied, it suggested that female and male divorcees had more vulnerability to stress through physical and emotional violence (8). In our study mothers had less interaction with their children by their husbands and mothers were less dependent on their children.
Another study that suggests that family dynamics are directly influenced by the child’s physical and verbal well-being, shows that mother–child relationships affect the emotional well-being of fathers more than fathers alone. In a study in Norway, the parent of a 14-year-old girl experienced an emotional and verbal abuse. Although the girl was an independent parent, the family court found that she was responsible for her father’s physical and occupational damage. Moreover, it was found that although she was not given legal support, she received emotional support, which the father experienced for the emotional damage and support. When a father experienced emotional abuse, women were more likely to self-deprecate in their relationship (6–9). Women are often expected to act by using other coping mechanisms to survive such abuse. In contrast, mothers experience an increased sense of self-worth being experienced when they intervene with their male loved ones. The social and political climate surrounding sexual child abuse and abuse continues to change today. However, in addition to children and parents having a physical and emotional relationship, many other social, economic, and psychological variables—such as divorce, family, children’s psychological support—also influence the child’s emotional well-being. Parent alienation may have an underappreciated effect on the child’s well-being, but it provides a strong stimulus to further emotional development.
Although many social issues can potentially affect young children, divorce is often not perceived as such a taboo. In our study, there were more than 20 female divorcees with significant mental and physical health problems, compared to just a single father of two daughters. However, there was a slight reduction in self-efficacy in children and fathers reported to have been emotionally affected by divorce (24, 25). The fathers tended to express a greater
The emotional and financial stability of the parents going through the divorce also plays a key role in the reaction of the children. In addition to the obvious struggles of going through a divorce, parents also often face financial burdens as they become accustomed to a single income, child support circumstances, possible alimony, and extensive legal expenses. The stress these aspects bring about to the parents can easily carry over to the child in the form of emotional stress. Usually, the least amount of difficulties through divorce by the parents, the more easily the child can cope with the process. If parents choose to involve the children in these financial matters, harmful effects on the children can be expected than if the parents exclude this information from their children. If a couple going through a divorce experiences emotional trauma, ordeals, or fallouts around the children, harmful effects can also be more expected than children not exposed to these traumatic situations. While dealing with these emotional and financial struggles of divorce, parents may unintentionally “be less able to accomplish their parenting tasks, more likely to make unrealistic maturity demands on their children,