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A Dreams Worth
A picture is worth a thousand words. Youve heard it so many times that it sounds trite. But a picture really IS worth a thousand words. And if a dream is a very special kind of picture, how much is IT worth? Maybe more? What about very simple pictures and very simple dreams? No doubt theyre worth a little bit less than complex, elaborate ones.
Or are they?
In my psychotherapy course one day, I presented my undergraduate students with these questions. “Heres a very simple dream from a psychotherapy client I worked with years ago. I wont tell you anything about the client. Ill just tell you his dream, and then lets see what we can discover about him by exploring it… O.K? Heres the dream:”
“I was wearing a white shirt and a purple tie.”
The students just stare at me, expecting more to come. “No,” I explain, “thats it. Thats the dream. Now lets start to explore it.”
I then lead them through a group process of free associating to the dream (much like I describe on the Working and Playing with Dreams Page). “Just let your imagination go. Take every element of the dream and just let your mind wander on it. Whatever comes to mind. Dont censor anything, thats important. There is no right or wrong. It can be a fun, playful exercise – although the results sometimes may be serious and powerful. Freud thought that free association bypasses the defenses of rational, logical thinking and unlocks deeper links within the unconscious. It opens one up to fantasy, symbolism, and emotion – the very place from which dreams spring.”
Here is a list of some of the associations the students come up with. For the purpose of this article Ive organized them somewhat, whereas during the actual exercise the ideas surface in a much more freewheeling stream of consciousness:
PURPLE …. royalty, bruises, choking, holding ones breath, grief, a combination of blue and pink, goes well with black, The Color of Purple
TIE …. formal attire, going to work, phallic symbol, tied up, being tied to something, chokes the neck, confining
PURPLE TIE …. unconventional, stands out, rebellious, showing off
WHITE …. clean, pure, unstained, “good,” light
SHIRT …. the top part, covered up, tucked in, stuffed shirt, where are the pants?
WHITE SHIRT…. conventional, boring, going to work, going to church, corporate America
WHITE SHIRT AND PURPLE TIE…. unusual combination, contradictory combination, very unconventional, tie really stands out
DEPLETION?…. theres nobody else in the dream, its so static, theres nothing happening, where are the feelings?
After we finish this free associating, I then describe the client to the class.
At the time Dan had the dream, he was 23 years old. I would describe him as a quiet, held-back person who was very confined (the tie) in how he talked, behaved, and felt towards others. Put bluntly, people found him rather boring to be with (white shirt). His emotional and interpersonal life were choked (the tie). He had almost no friends and felt little connection to his family (the