Men and Commitment
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Men and Commitment
Many men today are not sure what they want from a committed relationship. Most men want to have their cake and eat it too. They long to have a woman they can count on and that pleases them in every way possible. Men, just like women, also like to feel they are attractive and desirable. Then theres the side of men that wants to have every woman he finds sexy and beautiful. Women are not the only people bothered by this way
of thinking because some men are too. That is why I feel men fall into three categories: Monogamist, Flirters, and Player’s.
The men in these three categories possess three distinct qualities that they each use differently: attitude, communication, and interaction. Attitude reflects not only how these men feel towards women, but also how they feel about themselves. Communication is simply their verbal or written message when engaging the opposite sex. Finally there’s interaction, which is a mutual or reciprocal action or influence.
Monogamist are fully committed to the one woman he is in a relationship with. Whether he is happy or unhappy with the current state of the relationship, he is there to stay and make it work. The attitude of the monogamist is seen through his actions. Hes a man who believes his word is his bond. His communication with his spouse takes the shape of not just being a talker, but also listener. He interacts with her they way he would like to be treated also. He takes her feelings into consideration as well. With the monogamist, no other woman matters but his. He thinks of her before making any important decisions and values her input as well as her feelings. I knew a gentleman that had his act together. He was a people person and treated everyone with equal respect. Women saw how good he treated his girlfriend and admired him for that. It wasnt long before one very attractive young lady kept making very blunt passes at him. Much to his surprise, she became verbally abusive to him for constantly turning her down.
Flirters may or may not be in a committed relationship. In either case, he wants the personal reassurance that he still has what it takes to charm the opposite sex. The attitude of this man is someone who likes to play it safe. A little flirting never hurt anyone. His communication with women is made through his body language. Flirters interact with women in a safe manner, being mainly passive and not aggressive. A man who mostly flirts may not actually desire to act upon any positive response. The fact that a woman reciprocated is often at times just the desired outcome. Hes happy that he can still be effective and attractive as a member of the opposite sex. A good friend of mine possesses a great deal of charm when interacting with women. He is in fact married, and his wife even teases him about his way with women. He just has a natural ability and level of comfort around women. He treats and speaks to all women with respect. Even the women he personally does not find to be attractive or “his” type. He opens doors for them,