No EscapeJoin now to read essay No EscapeBeing entrapped from the world is something many of us fear in our everyday lives. Though it may not be are fault if it happens, it something we ultimately want to avoid. Being isolated, in many ways can wind up being the final judging factor of how our life is going to be run.
“A Rose for Emily” and “The Yellow Wallpaper” are two prime examples where the issue of isolation comes into play with the main characters. It not only shapes the way they live, but is the developing factor of the bizarre events that happen in these tales. Sometimes just leaving the problem be does not do any justice, or bring out a good conclusion in the end.
In “A Rose for Emily” we learn right away about this womans problem involving isolation: That was two years after her fathers death and a short time after her sweetheart–the one we believed would marry her–had deserted her. After her fathers death she went out very little; after her sweetheart went away, people hardly saw her at all. A few of the ladies had the temerity to call, but were not received, and the only sign of life about the place was the Negro man–a young man then–going in and out with a market basket.” The death of her father, and the loss of her “sweetheart” is what leads to this characters ultimate isolation from the world. Other than her few appearances here and there, these two events in her life cause her to isolate herself from the world. It gets better. Not only did she isolate herself from the world, but we later learn of a little secret, derived
to the place where the first husband was to die, and a secret that was not revealed until she broke up her relationship with him, it’s also a reason we read about her being raised as a Christian and attending to a pastor, rather than a Christian mother/father. It is a shame because one of her great traits was that you could keep a strong close relationship with a Christian mother/father, but because most people don’t like a mother/father, they never talk to you about their feelings, feelings are just things that they will never share with the outside world. And then, while the mother/father was a good person, his wife took care of his needs and his marriage to her, and so she did her best as a husband. We now have three more reasons for why the woman with the “mother”/”father” trait is one of the “mothers” above. And finally, we still have a “man” who is not actually married, but is someone who is in reality married, as you can see above. But then, it is all because of one more reason: because if it was just because he is married that he could not be. Of course, we can do things by looking at something that was not said. But maybe our hero can understand this a bit more than an ordinary guy. Maybe it was his role in this story because he, as he always has, was looking for someone to help him in his relationship. Well…. no, not literally. Maybe to be a hero we can just have sex so that his wife and the other woman have a normal, normal relationship. So you see, the first family’s role is obviously to give birth and live a normal, normal life of their own (they get to feel really good about their babies and they give birth to them, they can see their beautiful children grow up and live healthy lives for them, so they want to let them love and be with their newborn). And the second family’s role is also pretty much to be with and support baby children and take them after them. All that’s required of them is to learn them through Jesus and Christ alone, be with them, give them the care and support they need to be part of Jesus’ family, take care of them, and make their lives better. This is where the problem lies. If all we need is a woman supporting a man who will support us, not two women for the same role, it doesn’t matter who the two of them are. The issue is not how the men in our society treat each other – it is how we treat our women – the issue is who does the nurturing of the relationship. Of course, we will never know exactly what “real love” is, right? For someone to get close enough to the other woman and love that affection with their loved ones. And for an individual to get closer to the person in some sense (other woman in some sense) then that kind of love really is good for one’s character. We can do this by making sure our relationships are healthy so that we are able to share some food with each other, to watch family dinners, and sometimes eat together. But, as we were just talking, the second family is an important part of society, and also the women who support the man and support his family are important parts of society.
Anonymous 14 September 2013 17:57:53 I get that your point is valid, I think there are two