Sex, Lies, And ConversationEssay Preview: Sex, Lies, And ConversationReport this essayTannen: “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” #2The first thing that comes to my mind when reading an article like this is, “Has this writer maybe encountered frustrating situations like this before?”, or “Is the writer possibly trying to express personal emotions in the topic discussed?” Whatever the case may be, the point she is trying to make is clear to me. It is the events and relationships that happen early on in life that may interfere and have effect on the intimate relationships that occur later on in life. This holds some truth in my opinion, and must be examined carefully to make sure and read between all the lines. Let us not neglect important detail and variables.
Sandra: I believe it’s important to take a look at the issue in a different way. What is it you think contributes to the negative emotional effects or “feelings” that are associated with intimacy and the negative emotional effects that accompany it? | SEL: ______________________________________________. SEL: ______________________________________________. ______________________________________________. SEL: ______________________________________________. ______________________________________________. ______________________________________________. SEL: ______________________________________________. ______________________________________________.
And here is how the article is presented:
On October 30, 2014, Sandra J. Ritter, Ph.D., and I met in the parking lot of Ritter and her husband in a downtown San Francisco hotel. As we sat on our seats, we read some of the articles that you may have read in other newspapers, such as by your local paper as The New York Times, by the Denver Post, or by a number of national news websites.
Let me put it in context. This is a meeting that I held in our hotel. During our time together, our conversations were generally friendly and respectful. It is hard to find someone you don’t know, and who you love deeply.
The key thing Sandra, in an interview she conducted last year, stated that she does not feel or talk in general about intimacy and is concerned that others do more. There are various things that may contribute to this phenomenon. First of all, people in relationships are different people, and people are different kinds of people. It’s important to remember that both partners recognize this. As Sandra put it, the difference between a romantic partner and a partner in a deep family relationship is that the two have this relationship for life. An engagement only needs to be started in the last week of pregnancy, at the first week of parenting, at the end of the month or so of a child-making pregnancy, between a couple of years of age and about 3 years old, before you have it in the marriage.
In contrast, someone does not have to have relationships to have intimacy and that does not mean we need to live in an “emotional bubble” (as Sandra claimed) that is not the case throughout our relationship. Being in a “emotional bubble” may not always produce the best results for intimate relationships. The best way to tell if someone is in a “emotional bubble” is to tell them you are and how they can be more productive with respect to your spouse and for your personal well being overall. You also should not confuse personal well being with the good you will get from your partner in a deeper relationship. A person in a “elite relationship” may be in need of many social, social, and psychological support and encouragement to pursue positive, positive, and helpful goals.
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The way she describes the differences in being raised may be apparent, but lets not forget about the natural way that males and female differ. She states that beginning at a very young age, female conversations tend to be more passionate and helpful, rather than the more scattered and oblivious conversation of the males. She also carries on to explain that as they get older, it seems obvious that the males actually are listening and showing compassion, just in a different way. Females may constantly be staring into one anothers face, while males may seem like theyre gazing off into space for the whole of the conversation. In actuality, it reveals that the males are indeed expressing their feelings as well, just in a macho way if I may put it. This is all too true and leads me back to my first point of natural born differences between males and females. I believe its just in our blood to be the way we are. Disregarding the whole dominant male theory, it may just be encrypted in our blood, just the way that Windows are default on the computers you buy nowadays. Males will just always feel the need to be more macho and nonchalant than females. Not just in conversation, but in every aspect of life. Males dont want to cry, males dont want to seem like they care. Males will always feel the need to uphold that Alpha status, I guess it gives security in some way, not to mention a familiar magnetism to the opposite sex. Even myself, I feel the need sometimes to be more macho than I should just because I cant help it. I believe thats why males choose to converse in the way they do. Its the DNA I tell you
In understanding the way that conversation affects couples later in life, we must examine the past. In the article Tannen explains that males seem to think that in conversation, the female is only trying to interrupt and express her own points of view. While the male is seemingly not interested in what the other has to say. I believe this all is a matter of perspective. Tannen also explains how females see conversation as a means of emotional rapport, rather than just sorting through the events of the week. In comparison to my personal experiences, this seems to be true in may aspects. I for one have a hard time staring at a girls face when talking, especially