Gender MomentsEssay title: Gender Moments“He throws like a girl!” This insult is heard all too often and is harsh to boys because of the perception of girls being weak. We are constantly bombarded with moments emphasizing gender in everyday situations. After training myself to see these differences my eyes have been opened to something I have previously believed “natural” and allowed a new perspective to push through. I see attitudes and behavior now as socially constructed and not usually inherent. In R. W. Connel’s book Gender, he defines gender as “the structure of social relationship that centers on the reproductive arena, and the set of practices that bring reproductive distinctions between bodies into social processes” (pg 10). I have found that gender is an institution, a pattern that has attained a social state. Gender is unique in that it is meshed with many other institutions, thus changing gender, it would mean changing much of society. I chose to focus my paper on the different institutions gender is a part of, in education throughout development, relationships, religion, and politics. Although I have only touched the surface, I believe that gender is an institution; an order or pattern that has attained a social state or property.
Education is a potent institution used to reinforce gender differences. In our reading we found that children are much more likely to separate themselves at school in gender categories than in their neighborhoods. As Barrie Thorne points out in her book Gender Play, “Apart from age, of all the social categories of the students, gender was the most formally, and informally, highlighted in the course of each school day” (pg 34). I feel that many experiences in elementary school have reinforced my gender outlook. I spent much of my time in elementary school racing the boys and biting my nails to show I wasn’t scared to “break a nail” and never wearing a dress. Recess was a fight for me half the time. I didn’t like the connotation of being called a “girl.” Now I realize that I was trying to oppose the gender role I was expected to perform, yet eventually I grew out of that “phase” of fighting against the norm and joined the ranks of the girls. I moved from the field, to the bars and jump rope. I see now that the change I went through was just giving in to the reinforcement around me to be feminine. Instead of fighting against the grain, I chose the easy road by conforming to the norms required for proper girlhood.
The second thing I learned from elementary schoolers is that they are vital to passing on societies expected gender roles. Connell explains, “These laws are a part of an enormous social effort to channel people’s behavior” (pg 4). When I am around children multiple times gender law has been addressed, “girls don’t play with Lego’s.” There was also a little boy who felt he did something wrong when he quietly admitted to me that this favorite color was purple. The rules that society has set up are very apparent and are heavily policed during childhood.
The third thing I gleaned from this experience is how adults played a role. My parents thought it was cute that I was a “Tom Boy.” My little brother (who grew up with five sisters) was caught playing with Barbie’s on a few occasions, and my parents became nervous about the situation and quickly exchanged his Malibu Barbie for a GI Joe. It’s more socially accepted for women to cross over to the male side however, it is inappropriate for men to do the same. The idea of what is right and wrong is strongly reinforced by adults.
In middle and high school my femininity was defined. I wanted to be a girl more than ever. In the article Gender and New Institutionalism Katherine Graham states in her personal history a universal situation. A large struggle during adolescence is to figure out how to be appealing to boys (pg 14). We both discovered that we needed to be fake in order to be attractive. I had my first boyfriend and the entire relationship was pre-scripted. It was like everyone else’s middle school relationship. The boy called first, he asked “me out” and then we held hands, I watched his sports events etc. I took everything for granted as being natural and I really wanted to fill that role. No one wants to be different in middle school and it’s very easy to try to conform in anyway possible and ostracize people who are different. This is another poignant time where gender is reinforced.
The Girl in the Mirror is one of many books to show the power of female-driven social change that is coming to our classrooms. I always felt that girls and boys (I’ve just seen a documentary about the girls in the mirror called “The Girl in the Mirror” which I feel is in high demand) must have seen every change as a girl is taking over the world and we must all understand why. Girls don’t have to go through all the social changes that are going on in the world because we, as adults, are responsible to change. We can change them if we think of it as helping people, or if it’s our own fault.
I do believe that more women are in power than ever, if you look at the numbers and see that women are now in the majority of the positions in the top 100 companies. So many of them have left and will go back.
While I’ve been watching a lot of popular men in the media and other places, I couldn’t help but see how it all started, how their power has been transferred from the feminine side, and it became pretty clear that people could tell any time. This is not something I’ve ever seen, it has been happening since at least I was in middle elementary.
What Is Femininity?
We all know that men are women, they are capable of being powerful, capable of achieving a certain amount of power, they’ve had their careers and careers have been successful in a variety of ways but the men who are still living today are still there to perform that role and act as queens and take over control of society.
For me these stories have been about the power of power. We can see in it that these women were still able to hold the status of female. The fact that they weren’t able to do it because so many years of men did and how difficult it was, I can see why this situation is different.
In this story, we meet a boy who is about to take full control of his life because of what happened to his father. After the father passed away, his family sent him to a doctor and his life was changed forever, as he became more and more of a man. During this time, many of the other women in our lives came out and talked about what was happening behind their backs, they were even having fun talking about it, it was almost painful for them to share them and for us as women.
That child came of age during this time and they were forced onto the streets of middle school where they were tortured to be the next male to be given to them, because they were being sold. And they weren’t allowed to fight, as many of them did, in the beginning because of their fathers being cruel and that was for them a big part of being in a female dominated society.
There is another part of the story that goes back to when women were under the influence of men, as well. There was a time when men were telling stories about their exploits and that was when women were being held accountable for their actions. Then it started to break down for men, that is women being the villains, because they were seen as doing something wrong, that was where women became the victims for being feminazes.
Why is that? Because our current society is very patriarchal. That is not some kind of sexist patriarchy, it
The Girl in the Mirror is one of many books to show the power of female-driven social change that is coming to our classrooms. I always felt that girls and boys (I’ve just seen a documentary about the girls in the mirror called “The Girl in the Mirror” which I feel is in high demand) must have seen every change as a girl is taking over the world and we must all understand why. Girls don’t have to go through all the social changes that are going on in the world because we, as adults, are responsible to change. We can change them if we think of it as helping people, or if it’s our own fault.
I do believe that more women are in power than ever, if you look at the numbers and see that women are now in the majority of the positions in the top 100 companies. So many of them have left and will go back.
While I’ve been watching a lot of popular men in the media and other places, I couldn’t help but see how it all started, how their power has been transferred from the feminine side, and it became pretty clear that people could tell any time. This is not something I’ve ever seen, it has been happening since at least I was in middle elementary.
What Is Femininity?
We all know that men are women, they are capable of being powerful, capable of achieving a certain amount of power, they’ve had their careers and careers have been successful in a variety of ways but the men who are still living today are still there to perform that role and act as queens and take over control of society.
For me these stories have been about the power of power. We can see in it that these women were still able to hold the status of female. The fact that they weren’t able to do it because so many years of men did and how difficult it was, I can see why this situation is different.
In this story, we meet a boy who is about to take full control of his life because of what happened to his father. After the father passed away, his family sent him to a doctor and his life was changed forever, as he became more and more of a man. During this time, many of the other women in our lives came out and talked about what was happening behind their backs, they were even having fun talking about it, it was almost painful for them to share them and for us as women.
That child came of age during this time and they were forced onto the streets of middle school where they were tortured to be the next male to be given to them, because they were being sold. And they weren’t allowed to fight, as many of them did, in the beginning because of their fathers being cruel and that was for them a big part of being in a female dominated society.
There is another part of the story that goes back to when women were under the influence of men, as well. There was a time when men were telling stories about their exploits and that was when women were being held accountable for their actions. Then it started to break down for men, that is women being the villains, because they were seen as doing something wrong, that was where women became the victims for being feminazes.
Why is that? Because our current society is very patriarchal. That is not some kind of sexist patriarchy, it
In college I’ve found that majors are very gendered. I was previously a Dietetics major and after telling a boy this he said “that’s one of my favorite majors for girls to have.” I was offended by the comment because it connoted that he liked girls to study nutrition as a promise that they won’t get fat when they get older. There are always stories of the girl who “choose an easy major because it doesn’t matter what she