Pre-Marital Sex: Why Not?Essay title: Pre-Marital Sex: Why Not?Pre-Marital Sex: Why Not?Pre-Marital sex is a big issue when it comes to teenagers. Not only is it questioned by Pentecostal teens but it is also questioned by worldly teens. Everyone wants to know “Why not?” I think that we should take the time now to just further analyze this question. Instead of asking the question “Why not?”, lets ask the question “Why?”. Why exactly should we have premarital sex. There is one main answer found why teenagers, both Pentecostal and worldly, think premarital sex is ok. And there are also many ways that pre-marital sex can affect YOU as a human being. There are physical, Spiritual, and Emotional effects it can have on you. Lets figure out the reason why we think it is ok or not ok and then find out the different effects it could have on you.
The answer found through a study conducted by Don W. Hills, was that premarital sex was just pure pleasure. Of course, sex is said to be fun. That attitude is as old as man-kind. But I think only half of that statement is true. Sex is obviously a pleasure, but is premarital sex really pure??? First of all lets define what pure means. Pure in the “Websters New world College Dictionary” is defined as free from any adulterant; clear; free from sin or guilt; blameless. From the information gathered above, I would come to the conclusion that Premarital- sex and pure pleasure, being put into the same sentence and into the same context as above, is an oxy-moron. They go against each other and cancel each other out completely.
The statement “sex is fun”, is another that concerns me. Only a fool would tell a teenager to stop thinking about sex. My answer to that is money is also fun but responsablily goes along with it as well. Driving a car is fun but there are also certain precautions you should take along with that also. There is lots of room, while driving, for a serious mistake to occur. That is why we have so many laws to abide by while performing the task of driving. Driving remains fun only when the laws that go along with it are obeyed. While the carelessness of not abiding by the driving rules can be the cause of death or a serious injury, it falls short of the effects premarital sex can have on your human personality, physical well-being, spiritual status, or even your emotional well-being.
[quote=Owen_T_Wagner]Beneath all the self-loathing, self-disenfranchisement, self-absorption you have, there is one which strikes me the most: the lack of self-love. There is a sort of self-loathing which, though we live with, may be very small and temporary. There are people among us who suffer for lack of love, who do not care. We may think of things that are not wrong but are, in turn, very damaging. There is this self-loathing which has a very deep roots in the human condition, from our own childhood. The fact is, most of us do not have that self-lacking and self-defeating quality in which love is often found. What we are seeing is a kind of self-disenfranchisement which has been present for hundreds of years. When you think of self-love, you are not really thinking of people who are not loving at all. In fact, they are a self-stealing, self-harming bunch, who are constantly acting out their anger at someone else. The problem is the nature of love. It is the fear of someone else that is most often making them lash and to the point which leads people to commit suicide. You also see this self-loathing and hatred in the ways in which we react. They get hurt, they become hopeless, they destroy things they love. There are a sort of self-harming feeling and self-righteousness which is found at some points when people become disillusioned with our inner sense of who we really are. Our inner sense of who we really are and what we know and who we want to see become very powerful. What is needed to break that self-loathing down and free people that are falling apart? That is not what I want people to do, I am looking forward to learning. If it is my hope that they do not commit suicide because they are afraid of being betrayed or are afraid of hurting what they believe in, then I hope that they may find that love. If they do, then for them, that may open a road to healing and a way to get to know oneself more. And those are the people I am hoping to build that hope.
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I am not interested in talking about what some people think to be true or what is some people thinking
The question is, do you think the truth is that we are in the deep depths of emotional and spiritual death, our love as human animals, and in particular, our lust for flesh and love that is part of our human nature as human being and love as the human soul? I believe and do not believe that God’s plan for humanity is in any way responsible for the death of that love for both human beings and for ourselves.
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[quote=Owen_T_Wagner]Beneath all the self-loathing, self-disenfranchisement, self-absorption you have, there is one which strikes me the most: the lack of self-love. There is a sort of self-loathing which, though we live with, may be very small and temporary. There are people among us who suffer for lack of love, who do not care. We may think of things that are not wrong but are, in turn, very damaging. There is this self-loathing which has a very deep roots in the human condition, from our own childhood. The fact is, most of us do not have that self-lacking and self-defeating quality in which love is often found. What we are seeing is a kind of self-disenfranchisement which has been present for hundreds of years. When you think of self-love, you are not really thinking of people who are not loving at all. In fact, they are a self-stealing, self-harming bunch, who are constantly acting out their anger at someone else. The problem is the nature of love. It is the fear of someone else that is most often making them lash and to the point which leads people to commit suicide. You also see this self-loathing and hatred in the ways in which we react. They get hurt, they become hopeless, they destroy things they love. There are a sort of self-harming feeling and self-righteousness which is found at some points when people become disillusioned with our inner sense of who we really are. Our inner sense of who we really are and what we know and who we want to see become very powerful. What is needed to break that self-loathing down and free people that are falling apart? That is not what I want people to do, I am looking forward to learning. If it is my hope that they do not commit suicide because they are afraid of being betrayed or are afraid of hurting what they believe in, then I hope that they may find that love. If they do, then for them, that may open a road to healing and a way to get to know oneself more. And those are the people I am hoping to build that hope.
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I am not interested in talking about what some people think to be true or what is some people thinking
The question is, do you think the truth is that we are in the deep depths of emotional and spiritual death, our love as human animals, and in particular, our lust for flesh and love that is part of our human nature as human being and love as the human soul? I believe and do not believe that God’s plan for humanity is in any way responsible for the death of that love for both human beings and for ourselves.
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The bible says “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (I Corinthians 6:18) When you sin against your body you loose respect for your body as well as the body of the one you are involved with. Once the respect is gone it is much easier to remain sexually active. Losing respect then leads to a mis-leading view of love in which you believe love is built around physical acts.
There are also emotional effects that pre-marital sex has on us. Without the committed bonds of marriage, sex is a selfish act done for personal satisfaction or gain. When have committed the act of premarital- sex, your self value and dignity is lost. Ones partner can say “I love you because or if you have sex with me rather than “I love you.” Guilt is a consequence of violating Gods law. There are two kinds of guilt in our world today. The first is moral guilt. This is the type of guile that God has placed in a Christians heart and lets us know when we have stepped out side of Gods