Mother Love – Nurturing or Torturing?
Mother Love – Nurturing or Torturing?
Mother Love-Nurturing or Torturing?
In Pavlovas novel titled “A Double Life” a story is told about the relationship between mother and daughter. Throughout the novel we see examples of strict discipline and harsh living conditions for the daughter. One example that we see how serious the mother s about how to raise a daughter is by making some decision for the daughter. We constantly that the mothers in this novel will choose when they go to sleep,with whom they play with. It even goes to the distance of marriage. Cecilys mother at one point admits to how proud she is of herself for creating such a perfect well behaved daughter. It looks as if the mothers are treating their own daughters like pawns in a chess game against one another to see who has the most perfect daughter. Another belief that the mothers believe in is that a mothers obligation is to be able to read into the souls of the daughters,in order to prevent any damage to be done and to keep them safe at all times. In doing this,one denies the daughters right to choose or grow and it even creates a gap between their relationship of mother and daughter. It basically not healthy for either one. As we see the results of what bad can happens when a mother takes full control of a daughters life,we see the foreshadowing of a bad marriage. In the case of Cecile and Demitry, at one point Demitry takes a bet from his friends that he will remain the same bachelor before the life of marriage approaches. This can only mean one thing, hes going to treat Cecile and the marriage like a joke. Also Cecile herself doesnt feel right about the marriage,but backing down would embarrassed her mother and Ceciles been raised not to even talk back,god forbid going against what her mother picked out as a future husband. Misery is what the future holds for Cecile and her dreams are long gone. Every decision has been chosen not by her,but by her mother.
“Medea” is a short story that shows how sore a marriage can go when attention is not paid
to a mother. In this story we see the story of cab driver unfold about the recent death of his 14yr.old daughter. He begins to tell the man in the back seat how much he loved his daughter. How his entire life changed, including his relationship with his wife. It wasnt Until his(Taxi driver)wife got fired from a research laboratory that changes began to happen. With the wife out of work for a while and the driver focusing all his love on the daughter,this left the wife lonely and depressed. With these feeling mixed, love is needed or aggressive actions are going to take place. A womens insecurity about her own beauty are at most fragile when the husband is ignoring her. And its this, that the driver was doing wrong. He was so focused on the daughter that this relationship excluded the mother out and made her feel like a stranger. Seeing the drivers weakness (Daughter) the mother ends up killing the daughter to take revenge on the pain the driver inflicted on the wife. These actions are a result of vengeance towards the husband for neglecting the wifes much needed love. This story strongly shows how the daughter was used a weapon to cripple the husbands emotional life. This motherhood is no way nurturing, but boldly torturing.
In Tolstaya story “Night”,shows us the endless love a mother has towards her child. In this short story,