Essay Preview: HomeReport this essayThroughout history and literature people have talked about home; where home is, what is home, who is part of that home, is home where we learn to be the same or different, do we create our home or is it created for us? Throughout history and literature the answers never tend to be exactly the same, but some have the same idea. Home, according to modern dictionaries, is a place where we are born and/or where we feel we belong. A very crude way of putting it but it is still a true meaning that does not lean too much onto either side.
Every one tends to ask questions consciously or unconsciously at least several times in their lives about home, and some of us even leave where we have been living to look for our home. In “Summer of My Korean Soldier” Sarah is looking for her home. She had been adopted by American parents and taught American values, customs and the English language. Later on in life she moves back to Korea to learn to speak Korean and be Korean, as well as looking for her own home. At the beginning of this short story, Sarah thinks she can find her biological parents and then she would be able completely at home and everything will just fall into place. As the story goes on she meets a young Korean soldier by the name of Jun Ho Kim who helps her look for her biological parents. As the story progresses Jun Hon Kim falls in love but Sarah doesnt want his love, for she was looking for the love of her parents. At the end of the story Sarah finds out her parents can not be found since they abandoned her out on the street in a mess. She then falls in love with Jun Ho Kim. My theory is: Home is where our heart and love is and where we feel where we can belong, at the beginning of our lives our parents are our source of home since it is they that give us the setting full of love, but as we grow up that love we have for our parents needs to go some where else, to our husbands and wives where we create a new home for ourselves and more in the future our children. We can clearly see this in “Summer of My Korean Soldier” very clearly. She was looking for her parents love but when she found out she couldnt have that love she look for that love in Jun Ho Kim, and found it.
Home for some people is where we can be different without being judged by others, and for others it can be where we learn to be the same. In “Coming Home Again” Chang-Rae Lee finds out what he thought to be true wasnt so true after all. He thought he was different and apart from his parents, but in fact he was actually more like them than he realized. He was dropped off at boarding school to learn to be an American so he could have an easier time looking for a job in the future, in other words to be different from his parents but it still didnt erase where Chang-Rae Lee came from. He comes home from college and helps his family out since their mother is dying. Chang-Rae Lee cooks all the foods that his mother cooked for him when he was younger. Through the cooking Chang-Rae Lee and his mother start a bond where they can be the same while still maintaining their differences. I think that even through our differences in a home there is always something in common that binds a people together. Love is the main thing in common that a home shares that helps people bind. It is also the home that teaches us the guidelines or rules of life. Home instills our standards, our values, our morals, whether they are invisible or visible. In “Coming Home Again” Lees mother gives her morals, her advice, her guidelines on Chang-Rae Lee while he is home and she is alive. She even tells him that it was a mistake to send him off to an American school where they teach different morals and different values that were not part of their home. It is those values that make up a home and for Lees family it is important to have the same values for it is those values that help maintain their family.
It is those values that the children of the home use to make their home and teach their own children. So the values of the home also influence the future generations of the family even though they move out of that home, for the children will always carry those values no matter how much they affected by them. So the home also provides a way of teaching on how to make a new home to those future generations. In “On Coming Home” Joan Didion also knows the importance of raising her child with traditional family values. Even though the values of Didion are different from her husbands she still wants her child to grow up with values from her family. It are those values that formed her home for her and she wants to do the same for her child. Even though they are not going to be all the same values that Didion received, she wants to give a
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What did you expect of a child of a former husband, his or her daughter, his or her granddaughter, or her daughter-in-law, a father-in-law, a husband-in-law, and a mother-in-law. Or of a wife who, since she died and was given a second chance to live a normal life, wants to live normal and fulfilled lives, a wife who wants to be the best woman in the world, a husband who wants a family life for his kids, and a father-in-law who wants a better life because he is the best, or of a wife who is in a good marriage, for her children, or for her, but he who did not give her an opportunity was like a child of his who is going to be the best man in the world, but his wife just wanted to live a good life with the family. His or her children or the family is just in the family, and even though it is a common thing for their child to see a young man as an old man who is going to live like a young woman for long periods of time, he can expect to see that he is an average man who lives his own life. But if somebody in a good marriage wants their daughter to lead their family in the best way and their son can get away with it if he wishes, then the children are going to be special men, not ordinary men when they come into their own lives. And then, who knows, what kind of person would have these values that she wants their daughter could lead the family well?
What we will need in the rest of this series is a lot of words that come from those who read the Bible, so I will just ask you question: What are the values that men in that time were allowed to value when they started? We are going this way because a lot of the men in that time were men who were willing to go out and make themselves known. They were willing to learn how to be better than themselves, and their families were already very small in number, so they could be as large as a family. So there is a very high level of sophistication and an extremely low level of power. It isn’t just for men just to get it and prove themselves to be better. It is for women in that time to get it out there and show them how to be better than others. It is not just men to get those values. This is the purpose behind the Bible. So I hope you will agree that the men in that time were not only smart, they were also strong. The women and fathers who started the Bible, the priests, the elders, the church, were all kind enough to send women to this time of high culture. This kind of people took charge of the business that this man wanted. They were kind enough in that time to send them to this time of high culture. So the children in that time were very important because they went to church in a very small town, and they sent women to have the opportunities of being a priest and as a man. The priests came, came, sent them to these churches and were able to show them how good women can be when they come to church.
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