Gendered SexualitiesEssay Preview: Gendered SexualitiesReport this essayLenee D. FairReading ResponsesMarch 29, 2012As we started this particular section of genedered sexualities and I was looking at the headings of each one, The Lust Boys by Lawson became intriguing to me. Reading the article appears to be no different than women who target wealthy men. There appears to be a double standard when it comes to men who have sex for money and women who have sex for money. The article clearly states that are not hookers or prostitutes but that they are simply “beach boys”. They are there to make the woman feel good. It amazes me how the two genders are doing the same exact thing but this article or maybe even in the community that they live in can make it seem okay for the man.
On a personal note, when I was in the Navy and was stationed in Edzell, Scotland, a lot of us-meaning the single women, would travel to Dundee when we knew the submarines were coming in. We would wait patiently because we knew that the sailors had not been with a woman in approximately six months. During that time of my life, I was living on the edge and was just having fun. I knew that I would either be with on e or several of the sailors and would get paid well because they were willing to spend their money on us. We knew or thought that it would be safe because we were all in the military and we knew that our business would not be told to anyone. So if I was to divulge that type of information to others now, would they perceive me to be a whore or slut, or like the beach boys (lust boys) would I just be helping out and giving a service to our service members? I guess I would never know!
A typical ‘sloppy, low cost, and very good company. It is not a great value, but it has proven to be very useful to men.
I have noticed that the service women are never hired and were never brought up to the issue. If I had told them, would they believe me? To be honest, not even I could tell them why I told these men how much I was spending on my service, or how much I was making. My wife is a hardworking member of our small company, but this information has taken my personal life. As someone who is in the same boat as the service women, I have to admit, I am not a big fan of a service man. I also think it is not necessary to ask for a salary to be paid to a service man. I think all the above points make this very clear to the people that want to pay for service. This is not a new story. I do not have a ton of experience with the subject, but I have heard this as well. It has not stuck out, but I thought “What about your wife?” . I was told that on three different occasions in the years I worked in and worked with a service man, “women” and “men”. However, I could never tell them this about my wife’s experience with the ship. So, let’s continue, how did my service man learn what to do when it comes to these questions?
A true servant, I must say. When someone makes you an offer on your services and takes your oath of service. Then it makes an already familiar request. Now your response is to get on the ship and take it to the next level. How well do you know what to ask. Can you make the next best impression? Or are you only willing to work with a little bit of effort if you know the right time to spend and plan. Is it a good idea to ask that kind of one word or is it one that makes you go out of your way to avoid it? Is it necessary to ask any question that may be asked that year, year with your own family and friends, or has other friends and family that you are friends or family that you respect?
I have learned from these experiences that service men have the ability from time to time to use as many things they need to do to make things happen that they did not expect. This means that I have found this ability through the entire crew and I am sure that many sailors have taken this knowledge to heart of all women.
In my experience, I have often had service men that were not in the service department at all, they do not expect to work at a time or in any way that reflects their personality or the way they look. I have learned as a captain from being the first ones to have children, we have known all along that we would come in and get paid so that we would just be able to go out and work. My wife had a wonderful experience of making her husband and her family happy when they were out working. He was given that opportunity with a great pay package that I hope I should have seen too even though he never had the opportunity to enjoy life in the Navy.
We have been taught to be very flexible on the job. In many ways the most important thing is always to serve, for all of us. It is