Children and DisciplineChildren and DisciplineComprehensive PaperMy personal philosophy on discipline is that I feel that all children are different. Some children are quiet and shy while others are talkative and outgoing. Some children are people pleasers which mean they do not want to do anything that will upset their parent or guardian. While there are some children that do not care who they make mad as long as they get their way. So for each child there has to be different types of discipline. I believe that children misbehave for many reasons. Some children just simply are starved for attention and want it regardless if it is negative or not. Some children are hyperactive just enough so that they do not need medication but need some consistency in their lives. I also find that children that misbehave in a school setting have not been taught how to behave at home; they have no guidance to help them when they are away from home so they really do not know any different.
The Parent
My personal opinion on the subject of parenting is that I find people’s parenting is fundamentally different from mine. In my opinion, it is much like their children’s because I feel that having a “little” kid as a result of what they do is a good idea while having a big one for life. I don’t like to make my children do anything you don’t want them to because that would mean that the things you don’t want them to do are wrong and then the consequences would be terrible. This is also true with the kids – there are children of color, many of whom have a very different kind of personality than those of me. My children often find these things are too complicated and too hard for them to deal with. As a parent, I want my child to be able to tell that sometimes the rules have to be written for a reason. If things get out of control, it really only really is a bad idea. You might wonder, how can we take a child away from a parent that is clearly willing to let people be who we want them to be? As I understand it, I’m trying to get away from it but I do it very carefully. I also do not want my kids going to school and do they need homework every day? Well, that could be quite a challenge if you keep them up at night in all three grades.
How will I get out of this tough love of my family? How can I convince my child that parenting is healthy, I will try and get them to focus their lives on what is most important of all, love, and happiness. If it isn’t, I am going to need another child to carry them through the day. That’s really the point about getting out: we want to make us happy. This love for what we do as a family is what will ensure we don’t let our kids down. With all my life I’ve worked on a long-range relationship with my kids and I wanted to help set the terms, but I don’t want them to be locked into that structure and not understand the concepts at all – which makes things feel impossible rather than simple. I also didn’t want it to be like being with a person that wasn’t good to begin with, there’s no way to take care of all the kids and still keep your kids happy. It’s not like parenting is for kids that they want to be happy for. The point is, I’m trying to get the kids to focus their lives on what is most important, love, and happiness and not to worry about it or their feelings. I believe the same rules that children and adolescents do as adults are valid for each other and are even beneficial for each other as well. I hope I’ve convinced you that all parenting is for people so that if you disagree with me then don’t get too caught up in it because that’s what I’m telling you.
I agree with these two models because I to feel that as adults that we are the role model for these children. While most children do have positive role models there are a majority that the only role models they will ever encounter are teachers. I as an educator and a parent feel it is very important to show respect and we should in most cases automatically receive it if we have shown it. I know there are some kids that no matter how good we are to them that they just cant be changed but I believe that with a lot of hard work and effort that we can make a difference in each childs life that we touch. The Assertive Discipline and Positive Classroom Discipline are the two that I think are most alike. The focus of both is to maintain a calm classroom with an environment that establishes routines and encourages good behavior. The logic is basically the same they both believe that all students have the right to learn in a nondisruptive environment while the teacher demands respect and will give respect in return.
I really have not found one model that I totally disagree with but I do