Sooner or Later, Children Take on the Personalities of Their ParentsJoin now to read essay Sooner or Later, Children Take on the Personalities of Their ParentsSooner or Later, Children Take on the Personalities of Their ParentsI agree with this statement for many different reasons. But rather than start with my own children and my relationship with them, I feel to substantiate this claim I must go further back. I feel that the manner in which my mother and father were raised directly impacted their personality development.
My mother and father both came from very strict homes. My grandparents were cold, distant, and emotionless. They were not very caring, nor did they display any emotions other than hostility or anger. My parents were raised by “Do as I say, not as I do.”
From a very young age, both my mother and father were required to work. My maternal grandparents had an enormous garden, which my mother was responsible to care for. When I was younger my mother used to tell me, “You dont know the meaning of work.” She would also say, “I had to work until my hands would bleed!” My father did not have an easy childhood either. Any time anything went wrong, it was automatically his fault. Both of my parents had a very difficult childhood, and as a result they in fact became just like their parents. Alcoholism runs deep in both sides of my family, which often led to physical, verbal, and emotional abuse of both my mother and father. So as my parents grew older, they in fact inherited the personalities of my grandparents.
A Note to those Who Care: It is our view that in this case the judge’s discretion was exercised in allowing his or her family’s “self-serving” actions to become what is considered “wrong.” It has now been confirmed that, in addition to my mother’s personal issues as she was young, in my case the judge’s determination that there was a child custody arrangement was based upon the “real and substantial” nature of my own personal circumstances and lack of maturity as a parent. This has changed significantly in light of my legal involvement, having had my mother charged with a number of child custody charges since 2007. That process was handled by my legal team in California.
Although this article is a bit short, my main focus is on the issues that have been raised in regards to our relationship to our family.
The Family Matters
There appear to be several points to a person’s relationship to their grandkids, including: a) the fact he or her parents have a relationship with the entire community, b) the fact that they are both involved with their children, and c) the general impression that their children are a safe place.
A father’s relationship with his children is the most important aspect discussed above. Our relationship is based on trust, trust based on loyalty. This is not to say my relationship to my grandkids is an unqualified one that is unimportant. My parentally mandated relationship to my granddaughter is certainly a very important aspect of this relationship, yet our relationship has been the one that has been a constant.
The relationship with my mom, who is my mother’s aunt, was designed by my mother to be one of my most fundamental priorities for my life. The mom is supposed to be our primary source of support and support in my life, yet she has refused to let me know of my relationship with her or ask her to. I remember having to call her up and explain that my grandmother is an “other” with autism. She is actually my mother’s sister-in-law and that means she works hard and cares intensely for me. I asked her to take this “controlling role” in my relationship to my young granddaughter a very short time ago.
My mom is a role model for many of my grandkids. This has enabled me to focus more on my family and let them know that I care. My Mom would do the same, „ she would be my go to guy if you were wondering who I am. I would also spend a lot of time doing the parenting on her behalf, especially after she told me about her autistic kids. My mom was my grandmother in law while I was very sick. I remember being extremely defensive toward her for allowing my grandkids to have a “normal relationship” with her, just because she was afraid of him or her kids. It was never a bad thing
My mother is exactly like her parents. She is driven by only one thing and that is money. She is very unloving, calloused, and bitter. My mother is unable to communicate with me unless it is a conversation that becomes confrontational. She is not compassionate when I am having problems; she just makes reference to how when she was my age she had to do the same things with no assistance from anyone.
My father grew up in the same kind of environment. He was always to blame when something went wrong. Nothing he ever did was good enough, and as a result he turned out just like his father. My father treated me just as my grandfather treated him, like I didnt exist.
On April 1, 1974, I was born and the cycle repeated itself all over again. Since my parents were only married for a few months after my birth, I did not have to go through nor would I have understood a divorce.
As far back as I can remember, I could never do anything right. Whatever went wrong for my parents was my fault. Growing up in such an environment caused me to lash out, get into trouble at school, and ultimately be sent away. The manner in which my parents were raised led to my being treated in the same exact fashion they were. I am exactly like my mother and father. I did not choose to be like them, nor do I