Date Rape
Essay title: Date Rape
Date rape is not a rare incident that only happens in isolated situations. In fact, surveys indicate that in 84% of rape cases, the victim knew the attacker, and 57% of rapes occurred on dates (Warshaw 11). However, what is even more surprising than these high statistics is that most incidents of date rape go unreported. Several theories exist that try to explain this phenomenon. For example, many women may refuse to believe that their “friend” raped them. In fact, they could eventually convince themselves that it never happened. Additionally, there is confusion following the attack in which memory and emotions become mixed up. When alcohol or drugs are involved, the women may have no memory of the attack whatsoever. Even if the victim does remember the attack, they could be left with a sense that they let themselves be taken advantage of. In cases such as this, the victim may blame them self instead of the attacker.
The shame involved in either being battered by or hurting someone we care for makes it hard to tell anyone, even those closest to us. People in abusive relationships often work hard at making it seem as if nothing is wrong. They try to convince themselves and others that “it’s not really that bad,” or that “it doesn’t happen all the time.” (Hicks 18)
Additionally, societal perceptions dictate that a woman should know how to set limits, and that they are responsible for their own actions.
Many women, thinking back on their sexual experiences, will respond affirmatively when asked the question “Have you ever had sex with a man when you didn’t want to, because he used physical force against you?” but at the same time offer a firm “no” when asked “Have you ever been raped?” (Bender 10-11)
While victims of date rape rarely report the crime, the psychological effects are just as bad as if a stranger raped them. Since fewer women seek counseling or treatment for date rape than for rape by a stranger, the effects can be even more severe. In recent years, public attention has been drawn to the prevalence of date rape through the media and researchers. However, many believe that date rape is still the most widely underreported crime. (Warshaw 11-14)
Date rape has existed for as long as recorded history. In fact a date rape is described in the Old Testament (2 Sam. 13: 1-15) committed by Amnon, son of Kind David. Despite its long history, public awareness and attention has not been drawn to the issue until recently. The term “date rape” was first used in a September 1982 article in Ms. Magazine. In the past, legislation and public views were very different than they are today. Most laws defined rape as unwanted vaginal intercourse committed by a man. In recent years, this definition has been broadened to include oral and anal sex, and include non-gender specific words. While rape of men is more rare and almost entirely unreported, it does exist and typically happens between two men. While public perceptions of date rape have changed drastically, there are still people today who deny its existence.
Date rape is 20-20 hindsight fiction, invented by easy sluts posing as hard-to-get and “virtuous.” Any girl whose vocal chords are intact can scream her head off while kicking, scratching, squirming, and seeking a way to escape. Before you believe her claim of date rape, ask if all four of her limbs were immobilized, her mouth gagged and her hips held in a vise-like grip? (Bender 11)
Fortunately, as media attention continues, most people have begun to acknowledge the prevalence of date rape and its traumatic effects. (Bender 9-13)
As date rape becomes more widely known, researchers have tried to analyze why men commit date rape and what the motives are behind their actions. One common theory states that the inclination to rape is an evolutionary trait. While men have a greater desire to mate than females, females select their mates more carefully. The males with the best traits are then allowed to mate and pass on those traits. Males who are not chosen by a female are then more inclined to rape. This is essentially an adaptation that allows a male to increase his reproductive success.
The primary adaptations responsible for the occurrence of rape were the mechanisms involved in the human male’s greater visual sexual arousal, greater autonomous sex drive, reduced ability to abstain from sexual activity, much greater desire for sexual variety per se, greater willingness to engage in impersonal sex, and less discriminating criteria for sexual partners. (Thornhill 62)
One piece of evidence that supports this is that the vast majority of rape victims are of a fertile age. Using this theory, one must conclude that a male would only rape if the benefits (producing an offspring) outweighed the costs (risk