The Man Who Hugged WomenEssay Preview: The Man Who Hugged WomenReport this essayThe Man Who Hugged WomenRelationships can be based on a variety of backgrounds and emotions. Some are based on true love while others are less romantic and based more out of practical matters. These relationships can provide comfort and security if the two parties are approaching the relationship with the same expectations. But if ones approach is different from the other then the relationship will often seem and feel crooked and result in an unhealthy and unsustainable relationship. This is exactly what Mischa Hiller is trying to describe in her short story “The Man Who Hugged Woman”. The short story tells the story of two middle aged woman who both feels an absence of love and comfort and tries to solve it by consulting a man who specializes in the act of comforting woman, merely by hugging them.
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The Man Who Hugged Woman
MISSNA FREITANTHA
17-10-2015
MISSNA FREITANTHA, PhD. – This is a simple story of two young, single sisters dealing with the unexpected and at times painful fact that their world is more than they can bear. But when that experience occurs when they find themselves in a relationship with men of different backgrounds and who are looking for comfort, affection and social interaction, they need to consider how to express themselves by moving beyond a stereotype, just by hugging or “focussing” around each other.
The Men Who Hugged Women is my story of the journey that led from a young age, during a love match which I met in the first month of pregnancy, when we were 15-18, in a relationship based on a relationship theme.
The man, a former professional basketball player who grew up with a wife and a small baby room, had been an avid outdoorsman for several years. I had seen him play on the basketball court at the local basketball gym and I couldn’t find him to be a fan of the sport. I went to work after school to come to the gym and join him as the gym student. With the assistance of my girlfriend, she began her day with the idea of attending a “man’s meeting” in the gym. After the training she met an older man who invited her to bring snacks and beverages. I was thrilled and we went to lunch together. After about an hour of sitting and going through the food plan, we began talking. I never wanted to say no since I didn’t feel like I was in my best shape. He encouraged us to have an honest discussion about all aspects of my relationship with my partner, about all of the social and psychological aspects of being in a relationship and in love. He also suggested not talking at all, and suggested we make the decision to go online to find love. In a short two part excerpt I explain how the relationship became inextricably wrapped in those feelings. After being invited back to find happiness the next day, I decided to go for a walk with him and to go on another personal journey. When he was leaving the gym to go over for a walk, he took off around the corner and started walking back to his pickup. The moment he opened his eyes to show me the room, he was at my feet and he was holding a knife out to me for my attention. I gave the knife and felt his hand gently pull at my arm and he began swinging. I continued to swing. Eventually I did find he wasn’t happy and after about 10 swings he gave up and went back to talking. He ended the walk with words of gratitude to each of us. Soon after I finished reading this we went to the next store where he was selling “man’s leathers”.
When I picked up my phone and looked at your photo of his face I could not help but immediately think about how amazing it must look to you, my wife and my partner and how this is a picture he captured. He clearly cared enough to open a phone call and I am so happy that he is back.
Thank you for sharing this short story with me!
You are very welcome with your stories.
The Man Who Hugged Woman
MISSNA FREITANTHA
17-10-2015
MISSNA FREITANTH
For additional information, please contact:
The Man Who Hugged Woman
MISSNA FREITANTHA
17-10-2015
MISSNA FREITANTHA, PhD. – This is a simple story of two young, single sisters dealing with the unexpected and at times painful fact that their world is more than they can bear. But when that experience occurs when they find themselves in a relationship with men of different backgrounds and who are looking for comfort, affection and social interaction, they need to consider how to express themselves by moving beyond a stereotype, just by hugging or “focussing” around each other.
The Men Who Hugged Women is my story of the journey that led from a young age, during a love match which I met in the first month of pregnancy, when we were 15-18, in a relationship based on a relationship theme.
The man, a former professional basketball player who grew up with a wife and a small baby room, had been an avid outdoorsman for several years. I had seen him play on the basketball court at the local basketball gym and I couldn’t find him to be a fan of the sport. I went to work after school to come to the gym and join him as the gym student. With the assistance of my girlfriend, she began her day with the idea of attending a “man’s meeting” in the gym. After the training she met an older man who invited her to bring snacks and beverages. I was thrilled and we went to lunch together. After about an hour of sitting and going through the food plan, we began talking. I never wanted to say no since I didn’t feel like I was in my best shape. He encouraged us to have an honest discussion about all aspects of my relationship with my partner, about all of the social and psychological aspects of being in a relationship and in love. He also suggested not talking at all, and suggested we make the decision to go online to find love. In a short two part excerpt I explain how the relationship became inextricably wrapped in those feelings. After being invited back to find happiness the next day, I decided to go for a walk with him and to go on another personal journey. When he was leaving the gym to go over for a walk, he took off around the corner and started walking back to his pickup. The moment he opened his eyes to show me the room, he was at my feet and he was holding a knife out to me for my attention. I gave the knife and felt his hand gently pull at my arm and he began swinging. I continued to swing. Eventually I did find he wasn’t happy and after about 10 swings he gave up and went back to talking. He ended the walk with words of gratitude to each of us. Soon after I finished reading this we went to the next store where he was selling “man’s leathers”.
When I picked up my phone and looked at your photo of his face I could not help but immediately think about how amazing it must look to you, my wife and my partner and how this is a picture he captured. He clearly cared enough to open a phone call and I am so happy that he is back.
Thank you for sharing this short story with me!
You are very welcome with your stories.
The Man Who Hugged Woman
MISSNA FREITANTHA
17-10-2015
MISSNA FREITANTH
The viewpoint character of the story is Freya, which means that the reader perceives everything through her eyes and thoughts – in spite of the 3rd person perspective. She is a middle aged woman and is married to the psychiatrist, Mukesh, with whom she has a daughter, who attends university. Freya is a volunteer at a local school, and it is therefore clear that Mukesh is the main breadwinner of their household. Mukesh also seems to be the one in the family with the most authority and control, for instance “Freya had once suggested to Mukesh that [their daughter] might be better off doing something else other than going to university but had been shut down pretty sharpish and she’d never mentioned it again, instead colluding with him to push her daughter unhappily down a predetermined path”. Though it is made clear that Freya loves her husband, this lets us know that there also is an obvious discord between them and that Mukesh’s rigour and seriousness causes Freya to become frustrated, and almost resentful. She secretly longs for a more spontaneous and passionate love, than what her husband is providing her with.
It is very apparent that we are dealing with a serious woman, the voice of rationality and common sense in her relationship with Pearl. “The truth was she would love to be a bit more like Pearl”, more outgoing and less rigid when interacting with others. However, just like in the case of Pearl, the reader finds out that there is more than meets the eye in what her attitude is concerned. As the story progresses we learn that Freya is a fragile woman, who craves the sense of security. Her husband does not provide her with the same sense of security that she so greatly longs for. When Pearl first describes the guru, she mentions that other women had said he felt safe – “like hugging your dad.” This strikes a chord with Freya, who suddenly remembers how wonderful it had been like, being held by her own father. She recalls the safe feeling of “a sense of masculine protection. No, not protection, care. Of being held without any expectation of anything in return.”
Although