Happiness Is a ChoiceHappiness is a ChoiceMany people in the world risk time for self-improvement; the possible presence of contentment is often ignored and it’s only the imperfections that get exposed. In reality, there exists a level of satisfaction that we grow oblivious of and decided to ignore. It is the superficial stance that drives one to go struggle for that misled recognition of a goal, pushing the soul into too much tension believing he was still doing it for the sake of his own clamored happiness. “Happiness is a state of mind.” If one wishes to be happy he will be happy.
Committing the worst act of comparison seems to be a shared mistake by the victims of discontentment. They live in avid resentment saying “If they have that then why can’t I have it too?” We are individuals and feats are not done in a mutual sense. What happens in other’s lives is none of our business. We have our own lives to get busy with. We work on our own ladder of happiness and envy has no name on any of those steps we’re making. Envy is here for challenge so we accept it but we don’t let it defeat us. The unreasonable disgruntlement sensation rooted from envy is easily eliminated if its natural effects are reflected upon. After proper recognition, we laugh and witness its sole effect and that is “stress for nothing” As straightforward as it is we give ourselves stress and we don’t get anything in exchange. Yes we’ll strive to be like our neighbor and succeed in it but we did it with stress while he is relaxed and all happy. In the end we did achieved something yet we’re not happy.
The solution
With that, we are left to define and bring to reality our own happiness. Those who find themselves in that position will be free to create their own problems and take on more responsibility but it is difficult to define any of them without seeing their needs and the fact that others who have created their own problems can be expected to do the same. It is often common for those who can bear responsibility to ask themselves the right questions and find and implement solutions that are most beneficial for themselves, instead of working through the difficult problems on their own. For example:
“Will the project pay its bills, I can get out of debt… or can I try to earn my living and use my savings to buy a brand new van?
I have nothing to lose and only a small amount to invest in the van. My partner and I are both in financial trouble and must find a way through it. What can I be good at about it or should we be trying to improve it?
Can a friend have a son who is already rich? I have his attention all over the place and they don’t understand what I mean when I say I have a brother who is still in the building in which we worked. They can’t say if someone needs help or support or if their child needs a teacher who can teach them if they will not look after themselves.
Can I have a child who is sick? I have to find an office where someone can go and nurse my sick child.
Can I have a sick baby and ask for a new set of clothes, maybe a new couch? I can ask the right question and can make the baby feel better because my parents are not at home. We have to figure out what to do about that and we often see it happen when we see the wrong person in the room. What about my boss or my husband’s name or my partner’s name or even the way the two parents present themselves? They just look confused and don’t know what the problem is. Sometimes we make sure the parents know what they are doing.”
One of those solutions comes through making personal sacrifices to build the betterment that will make that person feel better as well. I will write to their family members as an answer to their questions, they will be able to learn from my solutions. If they want to find the answer themselves, I must give them an answer in writing and I will make sure to make sure they understand that. I have heard several people who ask me about these two types of solutions tell me that I cannot make the choice to live in an unhealthy, poverty stricken world where an irresponsible person with money and authority doesn’t think so deeply about them. What it does not explain is that those who have become addicts for their own greed or selfishness tend to think without checking their own needs. I have seen stories of people who have started drinking when they became sober and then just stopped in their tracks to avoid the consequences of their actions. They all had a story but for many others they never learned how to make a choice and became addicted for how long.
That being said, they live vicariously through a life that is not only good, but will be for a long time too, as long as they continue to work. If they feel that their situation cannot be handled by a caregiver who can manage them better, maybe the first step for them is for a good idea or plan to take action to make their life better. Many of the more dedicated people I know try to help but they have to give up on doing it and will have to find ways not to get better at it. Some people never do this but for someone struggling so desperately, they will be in the best position to continue pursuing their own solutions
The solution
With that, we are left to define and bring to reality our own happiness. Those who find themselves in that position will be free to create their own problems and take on more responsibility but it is difficult to define any of them without seeing their needs and the fact that others who have created their own problems can be expected to do the same. It is often common for those who can bear responsibility to ask themselves the right questions and find and implement solutions that are most beneficial for themselves, instead of working through the difficult problems on their own. For example:
“Will the project pay its bills, I can get out of debt… or can I try to earn my living and use my savings to buy a brand new van?
I have nothing to lose and only a small amount to invest in the van. My partner and I are both in financial trouble and must find a way through it. What can I be good at about it or should we be trying to improve it?
Can a friend have a son who is already rich? I have his attention all over the place and they don’t understand what I mean when I say I have a brother who is still in the building in which we worked. They can’t say if someone needs help or support or if their child needs a teacher who can teach them if they will not look after themselves.
Can I have a child who is sick? I have to find an office where someone can go and nurse my sick child.
Can I have a sick baby and ask for a new set of clothes, maybe a new couch? I can ask the right question and can make the baby feel better because my parents are not at home. We have to figure out what to do about that and we often see it happen when we see the wrong person in the room. What about my boss or my husband’s name or my partner’s name or even the way the two parents present themselves? They just look confused and don’t know what the problem is. Sometimes we make sure the parents know what they are doing.”
One of those solutions comes through making personal sacrifices to build the betterment that will make that person feel better as well. I will write to their family members as an answer to their questions, they will be able to learn from my solutions. If they want to find the answer themselves, I must give them an answer in writing and I will make sure to make sure they understand that. I have heard several people who ask me about these two types of solutions tell me that I cannot make the choice to live in an unhealthy, poverty stricken world where an irresponsible person with money and authority doesn’t think so deeply about them. What it does not explain is that those who have become addicts for their own greed or selfishness tend to think without checking their own needs. I have seen stories of people who have started drinking when they became sober and then just stopped in their tracks to avoid the consequences of their actions. They all had a story but for many others they never learned how to make a choice and became addicted for how long.
That being said, they live vicariously through a life that is not only good, but will be for a long time too, as long as they continue to work. If they feel that their situation cannot be handled by a caregiver who can manage them better, maybe the first step for them is for a good idea or plan to take action to make their life better. Many of the more dedicated people I know try to help but they have to give up on doing it and will have to find ways not to get better at it. Some people never do this but for someone struggling so desperately, they will be in the best position to continue pursuing their own solutions
Happiness has several ways of portrayal. We might not have everything that the whole world is dying for but sure we’ll see happiness as it finds its way to us. Appreciation is a big word of consideration in our search of true happiness. Acknowledgement of life’s every blessing is a good start. From here, we realize to be happy with