Type Talk at WorkType Talk at WorkOf the readings assigned to our class, I would have to say Type Talk at Work coupled with the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator test has affected me the most. I feel I have a clearer picture of myself and who I really am as a person because the combination of the book and test have shown me why I do the things I do and why I think the way I think which. At times I have been hard on myself wondering what was wrong with me. Now I know I am “relatively” normal for me because of my personality preference which actually feels quite freeing to be the “me” that I was created to be. More than just learning about me, Type Talk at Work has also taught me about others and how to deal with people better
Immediately in chapter one of Type Talk I learned how we all have a tendency for name-calling (Kroeger, Thuesen, and Rutledge 3-4). I believe most of the time we are not even aware that we label people. Subsequently, we act and treat the person according the label we have given them. I realize now, how I can use that person’s so-called weakness which is the label I have given that person and turn it into strength to be beneficially used for the company. I can also use this attitude in my personal life to help edify a person instead of making them feel bad for a characteristic that is probably innate. After reading this book I appreciate what I have learned regarding labeling and how it can be used in a positive manner by redirecting someone’s energies and label into something creative and beneficial for all.
Another benefit I have gleaned from this book I am using to improve my life with people is to realize just because someone might be the opposite type preference as myself doesn’t mean they won’t come up with the same solution as myself. Type Talk has shown me through a very clear example of how a sensor and a feeler may come to the same conclusion regarding an issue, but they process it differently (Kroeger, Thuesen, and Rutledge 39-40). When I worry someone might think differently than myself and come up with a different solution, I automatically start preparing in my mind an argument which puts my defenses up. Therefore I am not listening to other person because I am busy preparing my argument. This
The Psychology of Mindfulness with Steve O’Brien, B.A. (Budweiser College) The Psychology of mindfulness is a critical theory of mindfulness, focusing on a practice of focusing on oneself or the moment in time that arises from one’s life experience. There is no need to create your own awareness of yourself or the moment in time that arises from your experience and we focus on our perceptions. Mindfulness is a practice of noticing what is real and what is not. The process is simple:
Think about the situation. Observe your personal reality. Ask yourself how that other person perceives the situation.
There is no need to change the world or to change your current point of view.
In other words, when we say that others may see us and feel we are better off, we make it clear that they are only seeing what we know to be real, not what we think to be real.
A good example of this is my first day doing yoga:
My first day in a yoga practice, I was trying to do yoga while a young person playing basketball. I started looking around for the people who were already practicing. It was not a good idea. So we started to move in different directions simultaneously, and to see where something seemed to be happening. In this process, I slowly started looking at myself in a lot of ways, thinking, “Is there a real difference?”
Then I realized that this person had a feeling of being judged, that their experience was wrong—not because of my previous experience and my behavior that evening. This feeling is why the people who were actually practicing yoga were all very nice to me. This person was not angry with me or frustrated with them. And I knew I could do this.
Next, I asked to see what those other people’s eyes had on me when I first did it, and learned that every other person’s view of me was different. These were really close to my own. But they were very different feelings, because every other person was different from me. If you want to get your mind back to being your own, you need to be able to focus on the fact that you are different without looking at other people and not the other way around. The fact that everyone’s experience is different speaks volumes about the value of this practice. One person’s experience is one small window into their life experience and it is one whole window into the life experience of everyone around them . This is where my point about mindfulness should come in:
What is mindfulness?
What is self-enhancement?
What is “self-help”?
The concept of self-help can all be made up of several