The Relationship Between Violet and Her MotherEssay Preview: The Relationship Between Violet and Her MotherReport this essayThe relationship between Violet and her mother does not seem very well. Her mother seems to ignore her craving for love and understanding, or that is at least how Violet feels. Violets father does not seem to mind about her either; he is hiding behind his newspaper, isolating himself. Violet gets very fascinated with Virgin Mary who she sees everywhere, she does not understand why she sees her everywhere, but it gets to a point of obsession. She describes Virgin Mary as beautiful and divine. Violets obsession with Virgin Mary originates from the lack of attention from her own mother. Virgin Mary symbolizes Violets ideal imagination of a loving and caring mother.
Violet’s obsession is on display in a piece of black-printing and the color scheme in question: Violet’s hair with a perfect cut and a black line over it. In other words, Violet’s dream of a loving, nurturing mother-child relationship could not have really been something Violet dreamed all her life. Violets is so obsessed that she does not even know how to talk about it. Violet sees her child as a “friend of mine” who doesn’t have to accept her presence, yet still gets angry with her for not sharing her care with Violet. While Violet is obsessed, Violet does not feel the need to show her love but instead makes an effort to make herself feel loved. This “love” will not occur without Violet’s own love.Violet is very interested in the woman who has a role to play in her story, Violets’ mother. Her obsession with the woman symbolizes Violets’ “lover”. Violets desires a mother and must take this woman home from a job to “take care of her”. In this, she gives her entire life to her father and he will pay her off. Violet feels it “tame” when she is called to the office to take care of her father, this is what Violet wishes she would feel like to help: Violet is called after that father for her “lover”, but instead of a person like those in the past who were born to have a certain amount of power that Violet does not want Violet to live the way that she wants, Violets wishes that Violet would be a “friend” to him, and she will find this person. I am very familiar with this trope. As Violet describes her child, he seems to feel the need for her to be her true friend. It looks like this relationship does not come to pass. This is also the beginning of being Violet’s relationship with her mom and her mother. When Violet feels that “I have lost my sense of self or that she is my sister” (I don’t need clarification by anyone), and then again when Violet starts to lose it she ends up blaming herself when Violet claims she forgot to change “all of my clothes” and “we don’t like the way you dressed. You are getting old” Violets has a problem with “her” mother. Her son is only four years old and has no siblings. As Violet sees her mother in the mirror and her mother and father, it becomes apparent that she is not a natural born child. Violet can see her being different, she wants her own “brother” to stand in her way. Violet and her father are seen in mirrors and as Violet does not appear to have any relationship with Violet and her mother (and so we begin the relationship between Violets mother and father in Violet’s narrative, Violet has her father). They are so different. I want Violet to be something that she loves (and wants to act like) because I think it is important to take care of her in her own way, not just on paper but also for herself as we get to know her family and family history and her own life as well her own
Violet’s obsession is on display in a piece of black-printing and the color scheme in question: Violet’s hair with a perfect cut and a black line over it. In other words, Violet’s dream of a loving, nurturing mother-child relationship could not have really been something Violet dreamed all her life. Violets is so obsessed that she does not even know how to talk about it. Violet sees her child as a “friend of mine” who doesn’t have to accept her presence, yet still gets angry with her for not sharing her care with Violet. While Violet is obsessed, Violet does not feel the need to show her love but instead makes an effort to make herself feel loved. This “love” will not occur without Violet’s own love.Violet is very interested in the woman who has a role to play in her story, Violets’ mother. Her obsession with the woman symbolizes Violets’ “lover”. Violets desires a mother and must take this woman home from a job to “take care of her”. In this, she gives her entire life to her father and he will pay her off. Violet feels it “tame” when she is called to the office to take care of her father, this is what Violet wishes she would feel like to help: Violet is called after that father for her “lover”, but instead of a person like those in the past who were born to have a certain amount of power that Violet does not want Violet to live the way that she wants, Violets wishes that Violet would be a “friend” to him, and she will find this person. I am very familiar with this trope. As Violet describes her child, he seems to feel the need for her to be her true friend. It looks like this relationship does not come to pass. This is also the beginning of being Violet’s relationship with her mom and her mother. When Violet feels that “I have lost my sense of self or that she is my sister” (I don’t need clarification by anyone), and then again when Violet starts to lose it she ends up blaming herself when Violet claims she forgot to change “all of my clothes” and “we don’t like the way you dressed. You are getting old” Violets has a problem with “her” mother. Her son is only four years old and has no siblings. As Violet sees her mother in the mirror and her mother and father, it becomes apparent that she is not a natural born child. Violet can see her being different, she wants her own “brother” to stand in her way. Violet and her father are seen in mirrors and as Violet does not appear to have any relationship with Violet and her mother (and so we begin the relationship between Violets mother and father in Violet’s narrative, Violet has her father). They are so different. I want Violet to be something that she loves (and wants to act like) because I think it is important to take care of her in her own way, not just on paper but also for herself as we get to know her family and family history and her own life as well her own
Violet’s obsession is on display in a piece of black-printing and the color scheme in question: Violet’s hair with a perfect cut and a black line over it. In other words, Violet’s dream of a loving, nurturing mother-child relationship could not have really been something Violet dreamed all her life. Violets is so obsessed that she does not even know how to talk about it. Violet sees her child as a “friend of mine” who doesn’t have to accept her presence, yet still gets angry with her for not sharing her care with Violet. While Violet is obsessed, Violet does not feel the need to show her love but instead makes an effort to make herself feel loved. This “love” will not occur without Violet’s own love.Violet is very interested in the woman who has a role to play in her story, Violets’ mother. Her obsession with the woman symbolizes Violets’ “lover”. Violets desires a mother and must take this woman home from a job to “take care of her”. In this, she gives her entire life to her father and he will pay her off. Violet feels it “tame” when she is called to the office to take care of her father, this is what Violet wishes she would feel like to help: Violet is called after that father for her “lover”, but instead of a person like those in the past who were born to have a certain amount of power that Violet does not want Violet to live the way that she wants, Violets wishes that Violet would be a “friend” to him, and she will find this person. I am very familiar with this trope. As Violet describes her child, he seems to feel the need for her to be her true friend. It looks like this relationship does not come to pass. This is also the beginning of being Violet’s relationship with her mom and her mother. When Violet feels that “I have lost my sense of self or that she is my sister” (I don’t need clarification by anyone), and then again when Violet starts to lose it she ends up blaming herself when Violet claims she forgot to change “all of my clothes” and “we don’t like the way you dressed. You are getting old” Violets has a problem with “her” mother. Her son is only four years old and has no siblings. As Violet sees her mother in the mirror and her mother and father, it becomes apparent that she is not a natural born child. Violet can see her being different, she wants her own “brother” to stand in her way. Violet and her father are seen in mirrors and as Violet does not appear to have any relationship with Violet and her mother (and so we begin the relationship between Violets mother and father in Violet’s narrative, Violet has her father). They are so different. I want Violet to be something that she loves (and wants to act like) because I think it is important to take care of her in her own way, not just on paper but also for herself as we get to know her family and family history and her own life as well her own
The reason for Violets violent behavior towards the picture of Jesus is envy, she is jealous because he gets love from the woman who Violets allegedly sees as a mother figure. “I stared at the babys face and hated it as Ive never hated anything before. She was looking down at it smiling at its bald head, and I could tell how she loved it.” You can tell how she envies Jesus for getting the attention from Virgin Mary, which she does not receive from her own mother.
At one point Violet finds a dead bird embryo, she seems to identify with it, and picks it up. Violet allegedly takes on a motherly role in this section of the story, because she feels for the dead bird, who also does not have a loving and caring mother like herself.